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This gives me an opportunity to go off on a bit of a tangent and observe that in our actual world, as far as immediate politics go, poker players dominate shape rotators. Politics is mainly controlled by wielders of the word. Shape rotators make up a sort of upper middle class, but the true upper class is dominated by word wizards who employ shape rotators to do their bidding. Now, granted, it is shape rotators who contribute much more to the overall course of history than word-wizards and poker players do. It has been that way for about the last 500 years. Before that, it was the opposite, but since the dawn of the scientific revolution humanity's fate is dominated by the development of technology. But even though it is shape rotators who dominate humanity's future fate, nonetheless for now at least it is poker players who dominate actual politics at any given point in time. Very likely in some not too far-off future this relationship reverses and math-wizes will actually rise to the top of politics, perhaps even math-wizes who are made out of silicon... but we are not there at the moment. For now, word-wizes dominate math-cels. I myself am about equally good at math and words, I would say, so I do not think that I have any strong bias that would prejudice my judgment of the matter.
Now, when it comes to your particular dilemma: clearly you value intelligence very highly in a romantic partner. Unfortunately it seems that it is easier to find very intelligent men than very intelligent women, because it seems that there are simply more of them. I have met a few extremely intelligent women, including ones who are significantly more intelligent than me when it comes to rotating shapes, but it has been pretty rare (and it doesn't really take that much to be smarter than me, lol, I am a bit smarter than the average human but not by much). The average man does not suffer from this because the average man's intelligence is not high enough for him to notice the gender discrepancy in intelligence and/or because the average man is not looking for intelligence as a major factor in his choice of romantic partners.
There might be a conflating factor here, though. It is hard for me to adequately judge a woman's intelligence because when I am interacting with her, assuming that she is physically attractive, a big part of my mind is engaged in wanting to fuck her. It is quite possible that I am regularly missing out on all sorts of displays of female intelligence because when I am around women, I am blinded by my sexual desire and so I am not actually picking up on the sorts of nuances that I would observe when interacting with a guy. Statistically, sure, it is an undeniable fact that the vast majority of human geniuses in history have been male. There definitely seems to be an objective discrepancy between the genders. Men are maybe like 100 times more likely to be genius-level in almost any field than women. But I do sometimes wonder if, if I were gay or something, maybe I would perceive some women around me as being smarter than I currently do because I wouldn't be spending so much of my energy on thinking about how I could put my dick in them. Not that I would suddenly realize that some intellectually boring woman is actually a genius, but at least maybe I would have more appreciation for her mental acumen.
It doesn't have to be that extreme, it might just be that you're interested in very different things. You're probably not that interested in things like fashion sense, cooking, cosmetics social media impressions gathering, taking the perfect selfie, interior decorating, or planning the perfect party. All things that women do much, much better than men in my experience, because most (straight) men just don't pay attention to them. But if you look closely you can see how how much effort they put into them.
And all this is just stereotypical hobbies. You can also see it in there jobs, which tend to be very different from the sort of jobs that men get.
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