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I am very talented but I lack passion. I don't feel the urge to do or create anything. I don't want to express myself. I do absolutely nothing, and this has started to bother me.
Occasionally, I am motivated to make something, but it's because I see someone else's work and think I can easily do better. I always do.
Due to circumstances, I am going to be stuck in a limbo state for the next year, unable to pursue the only goal that I do have. During this time, what can I do to earn extra money online?
Game development seems like a good enough grift, right?
And, to be honest, what actually bothers me isn't that I don't do anything, but that I don't seem to have the natural urge that would lend itself to monetization.
I am a designer, I make all of my money from selling things I design online. The one thing I sell the most is not that exciting to me, so I spend a little time on that, then spend the rest of my time exploring other projects that I enjoy but don't make money from. I like to think that I'm funding my passion projects with money from boring shit I make that people do buy.
This is sort of a driver for me, as I'm a competitive person. Maybe try to tap into that energy for whatever you want to work on.
My dad's family had lots of alcoholics and mental disorders yet many successful business people, I really think that the addict genetics help me with the "natural urge" to monetize that you seem to lack.
How much money do you want to make in your year off? Do you need to make money or just feel bad that you're being lazy and want to challenge yourself? If you don't need to make money, honestly, I would just try to enjoy the time off. Once I got my passive income to a livable place I traveled for over a year and not thinking about making anything was great.
Thank you for a thoughtful response!
For me it's not even competitiveness, but this weird ego-strocking need that drives the little creativity I have. Once that need is satisfied, I am done. But producing something of worth requires sustained creativity.
Even just to grift, I would have to commit more fully than ever before. Without passion, all that remains is dedication. And the absence of an immediate need to make money removes any sense of urgency or survival instinct that would typically drive a person.
This is very good advice and something I will most likely end up doing. This whole issue seems like something I picked up through osmosis -- the creative hustle grindset mind virus.
Thank you again.
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