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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 8, 2024

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I also think that women, in particular, when they've grown up being showered with male attention, and the had their pick of suitors, they expect that they'll still be a hot commodity once they're out of their marriage. They have been out of the game so long that they don't realize that a 30+ woman, possibly with kids, is simply not going to command the same sort of attention, especially with newer models on the showroom floor.

A buddy has a theory that this is how the "Karen" archetype comes into being. A former hot girl abruptly stops getting heretofore assumed male attention because of the tyranny of age and gravity. For some subset (the Karens) their brain cannot process how or why this might be. They cannot shift to a "graceful" aging. Instead, they turn up the volume and demands as they simply believe the world doesn't realize what a hot commodity they have in front of them.

I've never been one for armchair psychology, but this theory is, at least, sort of fun?

It has legs, I'd say.

To me the Karen archetype (I admittedly don't like to talk about it as if its an objectively measurable phenomenon) is a woman who has an inflated sense of self-worth because she's borrowing somebody else's status (usually her husband) to try to get her way. Hence why it seems Karens often have husbands who are in the military or are veterans, or cops, or well-known local businessmen.

But I don't have any objective stats on it.