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Kinda like with dating, its a numbers game.
I will usually try and invite new friends along to other activities. I give them one to three invites depending on how much I like them, how good their excuses sounded (or whether they even responded), and how much advance warning my invites had.
Just showing up and being there is such a big part of adult friendship. We all get very busy lives, especially when you have kids. So I try and select for the people that can make it out to things. I think it tends to have a bunch of knock on effects too. These people tend to have their lives together. If they actually want to hang out with you they make it out too, so good vibes.
Once I have made a friend I'll usually try and keep them by just repeating the intitial thing, invite them to stuff. For long term friends I give them more chances to flake out. Anytime I go a few weeks without a social event I'll reach out to someone I haven't seen in a while.
I think if I had a party and all my friends could magically make it, and I wasn't concerned about logistics I could get about 20 people to show up.
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