AvocadoPanic
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I think there may be some conflation of foreign born / immigrant status and ethnicity in that argument.
I suspect many of the native born women bearing babies in France are not ethnically French. I'm not sure there are good statistics on this in France.
AvocadoPanic
1mo ago
Jesus persuades a group against stoning an adultress.
Not really a prohibition against all stoning or stoning Molech worshipping child sacrificers.
pretty pathetic
DeSantis would be better inside the Trump tent. Not as VP, but as AG.
Trump, DeSantis and TBD VP campaigning together would be, the best campaign ever.
AvocadoPanic
10mo ago
A lot of what you wrote in your OP resonated with me and I could see my younger self in much of it. My middle son, has an autism diagnoses . Many of areas where he struggles I also struggle(d).
I have work friends, and a few local friends, but I'd describe my wife as my best friend. When I was younger and single I had 'friends' to go out to pubs or clubs / dinner with, but none I'd describe as deep friendships and most involved some amount of alcohol.
16 - 26 was sort of a lost decade for me. Too much drinking, in spite of some negative consequences. Often drinking more than I wanted or had planned. Too much time in my own head. Lots of short 'relationships' that I seemed to stumble into and out of. Some sexual confusion, we called it expirementation at the time. There were periods of couch surfing. My family situation was unhelpful.
Following a series of professional setbacks (.com bust / airlines tanking after 9/11) I decided I needed a major change. I moved to Eastern Europe to teach English as a foreign language. Made an effort to drink less, spend more time outside and less in my head. Set short term goals, sometimes small ones, that would move me in the direction of long term goals. I tried to view the 'now' as an opportunity to setup future AvocadoPanic for success or failure. The chief long-term goal I set during this time was to be married before I was 30. While drinking less my libido returned, which while at times was uncomfortable, made it easier to identify women I was attracted to. I made an effort to meet women. I would become a regular places that women in the target cohort frequented. I did my best to be friendly an affable. Trying to be a good listener meant I had to talk less. If eye contact was too much I would look at their mouths or the center of their foreheads, I still worried at times if I was making too much or not enough 'eye contact'. I also tended to select locations that were dimmly lit or had pronounced shadows. Once I started viewing this as practice / developing a sociability skill set, the failures didn't bother me, it was all low stakes. I did initially struggle expressing my desire, most women still expected men to make the first move. Eventually one of these women I'd met in a pub, I encountered again at a birthday party. We married a bit less than 3 years later, 7 months before I turned 30.
Making friends seems to increase with difficulty as you age, especially for men. The most successful I've been has been through fraternal service organizations, Rotary, Lions Club, etc. I find the scheduled routine helpful. Meetings occur regularly, there's some structure, and there are opportunities for commitment / service. I find the routine easier to maintain if I feel slightly obligated to attend. Not all the local clubs will be the same, there were Rotary clubs I liked and some I didn't. Most of these traditional clubs welcome visitors and you can visit several to see if there's one you'd like. They're everywhere too, which if you move or relocate is very helpful.
Having children has also helped me meet people as there are lots of children's activities and parties where I can meet other dads.
We've also recently started attending church. Our local church aligns reasonably well our politics, there are no BLM, pride or Ukraine flags. I enjoy the fellowship and it's nice to meet similarly minded people from our town.
Professionally my work is uninspiring, but it allows me to support my family (just) in a mostly middle class lifestyle if we're careful and for my wife to be a homemaker. The work / life balance also allows me to be present nearly as much as I want for my wife and children. I could perhaps increase my income if I were will to adjust that balance. The 'politics' at work I still find confusing and somewhat difficult to navigate. I've found The Gervais Principle to be an accurate description of most of the larger organizations I've worked in. I don't believe that the guys adept at office politics or making more money are significantly happier or have better lives than I do.
You've mentioned the illegality of psychedelics several times, why do you see this as an impediment? Psychedelic mushrooms are easy to grow. There are jurisdictions where some psychedelics are permitted.
I typically prefer weed (cannabis) to alcohol now. Though I'm glad I didn't start as a teen. I don't think it would have been good for me.
Other than the gym and bicycling, what activities do you do regularly? Are there any that you particularly enjoy or have a talent for? Have you considered a cycle club?
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
If advocacy for Jewish forgiveness of Nazis leads to the shutdown of the platform. That's not exactly an argument that Jewish people don't have outsized influence, only that we shouldn't talk about it.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
Unreasonable wackos will take unreasonable wacky actions.
If only the unreasonable believe the unreasonable claim have you suffered reputational damage?
AvocadoPanic
20hr ago
Much of the the forage would exist in any event.
AvocadoPanic
1d ago
Inferior at breast feeding or baby having?
AvocadoPanic
1mo ago
Lower speed limit, 55 max on the highway.
Remove tariff and / or sanctions on oil producing states.
Rationing
Drill baby, drill!
Start a war / Organize a democratic revolution in a country that is mean to women and / or homosexuals but has oil.
AvocadoPanic
1mo ago
don't consider Catholics to be Christians
Papists or Romanists are a specific sort of Christian. The ecumenicism of current year contrasts with the sectarianism of much of our shared history.
Latter Day Saints and Jehovah's Witnesses are frequently on the outside. Would Luther include them in the synagogue of Satan with the Papists?
AvocadoPanic
1mo ago
Jesus the Word of God?
Lev 20:1-2 The LORD spoke to Moses: "You are to say to the Israelites, 'Any man from the Israelites or from the foreigners who reside in Israel who gives any of his children to Molech must be put to death; the people of the land must pelt him with stones.
AvocadoPanic
7mo ago
Does school suck now? Why does it suck? Has it always sucked? Is it like this everywhere?
In 4th grade in the '80's at a public school in Sacramento, CA we had a divided start, homework 4 days a week, tilt top desks with integrated swivel chairs in rows. Good posture was encouraged by being mandatory. In classroom work was handwritten, questions were copied from the book. Math was half the problems in class half at home, any incorrect answers were expected to be corrected and resubmitted. In class there were many opportunities for reading aloud. We're were expected to have memorized multiplication tables to 12 x 12. We read 'Brighty of the Grand Canyon', I had reading in the afternoon, I don't know what the kids in the morning read. Lynne Reid Banks came to the school for Author Day, there was an assembly in the MP room.
I had poor penmenship and failed to apply myself, but there seemed to be more rigor. I wouldn't have guessed 4th grade was so different now. 4th grade was also the year you could work in the cafeteria, I liked working milk sales.
I've found with my children I have to demand they supply more effort and often apply considerable pressure to see improvement in the production of their work, especially in a non-preferred subject. Many of the traditional pressures of written corrections, writing lines, poor grades, deficiency notices, summer school, repeating the year have been eschewed in favor of what? The expected standard seems low, the quality of work produced by my recent 4th grader is below the quality of 4th grade @AvocadoPanic, but the school isn't really demanding excellence.
I've 5th, 3rd, 1st and pre-k. Our district is in the top 10% in Massachusetts.
Are there any old teachers here, did you complain in the 80's about children in the 40's having better penmenship?
AvocadoPanic
8mo ago
It's not something fundamental about public schools, it's the students.
It's also the curriculum, teachers and administrators.
I would happily send my children to my elementary school too, in 1980, when I started half-day kindergarten.
The reality of school today is very different even in top decile areas than 1980. We've found our high performing public school to be insufficiently academicly rigorous. Our school committee feels more like PR or cheerleaders for the superintendent and faculty, who are products of post-modern education academia.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
Or the government isn't magic. They can only perform the possible.
Getting black kids to want to perform better, possible.
Getting kids to want to cut their dicks off, possible.
Getting black kids to actually perform better, not possible.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
It seems odd to me to classify following the rules of the benefits / incentive program as 'gaming' . If you follow the rules and have the children, it seems like it's producing the desired outcome.
Doesn't the Hungarian model require marriage beforehand?
I don't think were going to sperm bank and single mother our way out of low fertility. Certainly that would produce negative consequences.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
I may not expect them to love me, but much of the 'help' / love for others in the Bible is of a spiritual nature rather than practical. There's no requirement to enable others sloth.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
SBF doesn't have a very vegetarian / vegan aesthetic. I find they typically have a slimmer gaunt unhealthy appearance not his pudgy unhealthy appearance. Maybe he's a vegan fraud too. Isn't it more likely that it's just fraud all the way down? Is anyone really surprised at another finance capitalism fraud? Fraud starts to look more like a feature.
At least the industrial capitalists produce widgets that actually exist, mostly.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
It's also better than the alternatives,
Do you include computer / algorithmic generated districts that use compactness and county / geologic boundaries to compute and score districts?
I've seen proposals I would prefer to those drawn by committee.
AvocadoPanic
1yr ago
Why the focus on FTL? Post-energy scarcity via technological advancement seems possible / more likely than FTL. There are a lot resources available in the solar system, no FTL required.
If the focus by technological advanced societies was on food, healthcare, water and strong borders for themselves rather than feeding the world wouldn't this sort itself through natural consequences? Aren't we already acting via various international aid and development programs? Would stopping these also be acting?
Is there evidence for people getting better over time? Better in what sense?
I want my in-group to decide and act as soon as possible in their own interests.
How did they lower the rates in Europe?
Are those pressures being applied to violence prone populations today?
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/147470491501300114
AvocadoPanic
1mo ago
My favorite recent spy was Feinstein's driver of 20 years.
https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/details-chinese-spy-dianne-feinstein-san-francisco/
AvocadoPanic
9mo ago
Immigration of engineers isn't controversial, and never has been.
Unless the imported engineers depress wages for native engineers and reduces investment in native engineering development capacity.
AvocadoPanic
10mo ago
fundamentally change who they are
In terms of fundamental change, happy as I am, seems a lesser / smaller change than the alternative.
I would think a pill to cure homosexuals would be popular. Though I can imagine there would be opposition. There's opposition by some in the deaf community to cochlear implants.
AvocadoPanic
11mo ago
'Technology' in primary education is only to facilitate a shift to online learning materials that schools now must subscribe. It's a grift by educational publishers to increase reoccurring revenue and provide make-work jobs for Education post-graduates.
Sunscreens prevention of cancer other than physical zinc oxide, titanium dioxide, mud, style preparations.
HIV dose not cause AIDS, it's iatrogenic and grift to sell drugs.
Which variety of child sexual abuse? The sort where two men adopt / foster boys they abuse and sometimes produce pornography with or the sort where homosexual men will invite teen boys that are 'old souls' to pool parties for leering, letchery, drug use, and also sometimes pornography production?
I find both unacceptable. I suspect the latter is more common than the former. I also suspect the latter is more acceptable in the letch community.
How common does conservative media lead people to believe it is? I'm certain there are unreported instances of both occurring this weekend. Given the current year acceptance of alphabetism, isn't it likely there's more of this abuse now than anytime in the last 40 years?
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