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CertainlyWorse
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3d ago
It is hard to get used to safely managing violence.
This is the core issue. Violence is easy. Minimal amount of violence necessary to achieve your goal, with the understanding your actions will be under the microscope in hindsight by others with all the time in the world is very difficult.
I have so much respect for healthcare security and medical staff for dealing with the worst of humanity.
Do you know what cops do when they assess that someone is out of their minds (either psychologically, or due to drugs)? They drop them off at the nearest ER, shrug, and say 'your problem now.' The worst types of criminals and mentally ill aren't dealt with by cops, but the healthcare system. The medical staff are meant to treat someone in a psychotic aggressive state without harming them or allowing themselves to come to harm. Imagine a George Floyd once a week except he's screaming and trying to bite your face off like a fast moving zombie from 28 Days Later.
Get it wrong and you've lost a digit, been stabbed with a junkie needle or are in fear of losing your job based on the outcome of an administrative panel review (that cares about the corporate image more than your wellbeing).
You couldn't pay me enough to do that.
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5d ago
I'll keep it in mind to build some rapport before dumping on them. Luckily I'm doing individual counseling only, so I won't need to worry about them taking sides. I'll be the only one they meet.
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5d ago
Because marriage is between a man and a woman straight up. Happy for them to have equal legal protection.
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5d ago
Does anyone have any advice around relationships counselors in Western countries? Particularly regarding 'counselors' (eg did a counseling course with accreditation) vs actual trained psychologists. I'm looking at seeing one individually, but unsurprisingly there aren't any male counselors available so I'm trying my luck with a female one. I'm concerned that a woman won't be able to properly empathise with a male point of view, and might balk at certain 'how the sausage gets made' conversations.
This isn't for anything critical, just relationship advice regarding my specific situation (with details I wouldn't share here, even incognito).
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5d ago
The gay marriage debate was always built around forcing society to give gay unions as much respect and reverence as regular marriage. It's stolen valour. If they want those unions to be respected then they should prove it through example that they are serious partnerships meant to last for life. They know about the instability and promiscuity rife in gay relationships and the big question marks hanging over child rearing by gay parents, but want you to ignore all that because there are laws telling you to do so. You're meant to pretend its the same as an institution with more than 4000 years of history behind it.
Edit: Should make it clear I'm all for equal legal rights in gay unions. I'm just against calling it marriage.
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6d ago
I don't like the Babbitt shoot, but I could understand that in the moment, the police officer didn't see Babbitt, but a limb of an angry mob. It's the only way it makes sense to me outside of some weird castle doctrine defense. Babbitt of course was a clown to do what she did.
Notably in mid 2025 the govt settled a wrongful death suit with Babbitt's family for $5 million.
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6d ago
There seems to be an uptick in women deliberately bringing their children to protests.
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6d ago
travellers rest
For whatever reason I've got Innkeep on my wishlist. I really enjoyed Graveyard Keeper so was looking for something in that style.
Yes, I've done therapy before so I'm pretty much expecting that the first counselor I try might not be a good fit. Especially considering its a woman.
I have had a good female counselor before, but considering the things I'm going to say, I just don't know if your average female counselor will be able to focus her empathy and bend her point of view enough to accommodate male needs in a relationship (emotional as well as physical). I'll see how I go, but at least I'm managing my expectations going in. If she doesn't work, I'll shop around to find a guy rather than wasting time and money trying multiple women.
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