GavinSkulldrinker
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I remember seeing Chicago Tinder in the summer of 2020. I saw lots of bios that indicated that "trump supporters" and people who don't believe "ACAB" would be denied or should otherwise "swipe left."
I also recall quite a few bios stating that they don't date racists, then went on to say "People of Color Only." This left me rather confused, as I've previously been told in real life that People of Color CAN'T be racist, rending much of the text redundant. I was also confused as to why racists would be so opposed to dating racists.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Is there somewhere within 20 minutes of Redmond that's particularly cheap and un-pretentious?
I'm not used to the big city, at this point, I'm used to the countryside. I just want to be somewhere that unattached women age 28-35 exist, where I can have a conversation that doesn't bore me to death, and I have pre-existing family to lean on socially. My plan is to get a quality D&D game going, and use that to network my way into selling psychedelic fungi to corpos. There's a sizable number of aspiring players but not enough DMs, and these are exactly the sorts of people who make ideal customers for shrooms. Festival kids and wooks are tiresome flakes, and overly-paranoid.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
It's full of enough reflexive contrarians that whenever things veer too right-wing anti-SJW-echo-chamber, the urge to disagree kicks in and homeostasis is maintained.
Typically either white, or ambiguously brunette (It's Chicago, so there's lots of dusky women who could be some manner of mexican/puerto-rican/blatino/asianish, or a pretty european woman with a tan, or one of the really olive slavs.) but there were one or two Ask-Me-About-My-Blackness Black women, IIRC.
I find it offensive to my cognition that they have say "I Hate Racists and Racism" right there on the page in addition to "No Whites." How do they themselves not notice the contradiction while typing? I know they think you can't be racist to white people, definitionally, but the arrangement of the words should be enough for them to think "Hmmm, I know there's nothing technically inconsistent here, but maybe I should tighten this up a bit with a re-write". Also, if they hate white people so much, White People = Racist, so they could save space and just say "I Hate Racists," then white people and cops are covered (Oh, but not Cops of Color, dang).
I just don't believe that young women in major metropolitan areas are beset on all sides by legions of MAGA-cap-wearing, Fox-News-Watching, RNC-Attending, Heated-Gamer-Moment-Having young men who loudly bray how much they despise all the mud-people around women they want to fuck. I don't think these statements of preference are honest expressions of frustration, and I'm also annoyed that a guy's profile saying "No Fat Chicks" is treated as a fucking hate crime against women by these same people.
I want a meme or wall of shame or infographic or whatever that's just a compliation of Tinder profiles full of stupid political demands, with captions like:
"#CurrentYear Much?"
"Are you trying to connect with a human, or campaigning for office? Pick one"
"We can Tell What #CurrentThing was When You Last Updated This"
And they'd be well-selected, too. No obvious troll accounts or snapchat/OF bait, serious genuine profiles by people who look on the attractive end of normal. People of both genders. People who look like your friends. People who look like you. Holding up a mirror to people is just about the only "magic bullet" argument for changing minds in the culture war.
I disagree. People with friends don't have thirty different messaging conversations active at once.
Rather, what I see is that it's made people boring and unpleasant to bother interacting with in real life. Ever since COVID, every time I try interacting with people, I walk away genuinely disgusted. Tried going to a bonfire mid-summer; The hosts were old friends, they also invited a bunch of the midwestern mid-20-somethings they knew.
The mid-20-somethings barely engaged with the hosts and formed their own little closed circle, like they'd used their invitation as a pretext to annex territory. They randomly played music from a car sound system (songs would start and stop abruptly, volume would change, all suggestions were ignored). They called eachother "White" a lot, loudly, with the same tone small children shout "Cooties," and despite the gathering being 100% white. One of them tried engaging in conversation with me, but it was to solemnly and intensely say that Alex Jones was finally facing justice, which I didn't care about. I actually found out that two of them lived in my hometown, and asked them what it was like living there as a younger person. The dude talked about how the conservatives were in X bar and the liberals in Y, which was not the question that I asked. Then he saw his girlfriend was talking to another dude, and went over to do some Mate Guarding. Another one assumed I was a communist because I was wearing a black denim jacket and tried talking to me about communism. No women there who weren't with a boyfriend.
I'm not uncharismatic. I run RPGs and spent years in Sales, I can command people's attention and draw stuff out of them. But I couldn't bring myself to want to engage with this group at anything beyond arm's length.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
When I visited it didn't seem nearly so desolate. Can you describe Chicago? That way I can calibrate your analysis against mine.
I think Psilocybin mushrooms work well as a "Have you tried turning it off and on again?"-style solution to mental problems. (no, it won't fix everything, especially not just doing it over and over, but it's worth starting with [before you call IT support], and something you should probably do once every couple months anyways).
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The novelty and adversity of a mild trip is enough to give you that sense of crisis you need to begin crawling out of your depression pit.
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This is going further out on a limb, but I think they give you a smidge of the ole' neuroplasticity; not enough to learn five new languages, but enough to notice you're being a sad-sack.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
This article popped up on the last android tech news site I still use(d). Someone complained that they could get google-assistant to say the n-word. When we've reached this point, yes, there's something to be gained from reminding people that it's just letters, it has no etymological connection with "niggardly," and entire songs use it as their sole lyric (and performers use it to fuck with fans), and it does not in fact cause people's ears to bleed or small animals to die when spoken.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Could I ask you to name some names regarding what's popular with the woke?
In my last brush with the New Orthodox Woke during the start of the pandemic, the stuff being pushed was Infinite Jest, Waiting for Godot, Blue Velvet, and anything Southern if it was to do with a black person, ideally a black person who had been lynched. Also, they keep saying they love D&D, but then refuse to play because the setting contains racial prejudice.
Way back in the day, when I was first trying to date as a young adult in my college town, I ran into a woman who was nominally part of the "geek/nerd/gamer" subculture of the early 2010s (read: she preyed on geek/nerd/gamer men). She was abusive, manipulative, and a pathological liar. She also used all the progressive feminist lingo of the time. At me. A lot. Because she knew enough about my subculture to know the words that would particularly hurt me and isolate me. The same language that I saw wielded by other women with slightly less-conscious malice, but I still saw as them shitting on their captive audience, because most of their friends were geeky/nerdy/gamer men who would tolerate being shat on. I remember a few months where every woman I tried striking up a conversation with would immediately start talking about rape on college campuses at frat parties, despite our college not having frats, extravagant house parties, or whatever the fuck "greek life" is, and both of us being introverted shut-ins who watched anime.
When I was designated-driver-ing and dropping off the gang at the end of the night, the last person in my car for me to drive home was a short, pear-shaped girl with dark hair who I had wanted to talk to more, but apparently one of my male friends had invited her out for his own reasons, AND she turned out to still be hung up on some third dude, so neither of us got anywhere with her. But I didn't want to drive silently, I remembered she was Supernatural fangirl, I knew OF it, I tried asking her favorite episode.
Her response:
"Please don't rape me."
I had minimal interest in politics way back when beyond "Republicans=Religion, Me=Fedora-tipping Atheist," but I kept noticing that ever since I managed to get out of having to go to CDC, the people who were getting pissy and censorious and kept "won't someone please think of the children"ing me were always Liberal Feminists, and then moved on to being Anti-Racists, and later NB-Queer/Trans-Allies. Noticing that every day I was being entreated to have more and more empathy for whatever group at the time was demanding something (and less and less for myself); Women who wanted to work in "tech" but didn't like computers, women who had transitioned to being (homosexual) men whom actual homosexual men wouldn't date, women and black people and genderqueers who wanted to play Magic the Gathering but didn't feel represented despite the game having all of those things featuring prominently in it since 2002. I remember the first time I was actually called a Straight White Male, in real life. I chortled, and said "Go back to the dumb part of the internet, and take your lingo with you."
Almost ten years later, I'm watching The Imitation Game with a woman I've been casually seeing for a few weeks. I make the mistake of saying "Ah, and here we see Kiera Knightly, yet again reprising her role as a Modern Woman trapped in a Period Piece."
(Which isn't even much of a crack against Miss Swan herself, more gentle ribbing. She was a bounty hunter that one time, after all. It's a similar joke to how DiCaprio's roles have progressed from Ambitious Young Man Torn Between Loyalty and Ambition, to Ambitious Man Undone By His Ambition, to Ambitious no-longer-young-Man Living In The Ruins Of His Life [That His Own Ambitions Ruined].)
This got me a talking-to, about how it was less than a hundred years ago that women were finally allowed to vote, how dare I make light of such an important historical figure. I responded with "And less than 50 years ago, black people couldn't vote. And before 1776, no one could vote, no matter what genitals they had or what color they were. History was shit for everyone until very, very recently."
It eventually devolved into her blaming me for her younger sister not being allowed to wear bellyshirts at school, at which point I said "I should go" and Shep'd out.
What's onerous/dangerous in relationships are people who are infected with an ideological memeplex, or people who have sold out to an ideology; the first type will constantly be mentally coughing on you, the 2nd type will walk on you without a second thought if it advances them up the ranks. It's not about getting along despite having "different politics," it's about having enough self-awareness to notice there's a person across from you instead of a collection of labels, some of which you're allowed (encouraged, actually) to shit on.
When I've expressed my own equivalent frustrations about politics to women I'm intimate with or want to be intimate with,
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I typically don't.
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I phrase it in the context of concrete events that happened to me, so I'm telling personal anecdotes that inform the person I am today.
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I use my own fucking words, and typically it's mildly entertaining so long as I'm brief.
Also, an addendum regarding Wokefishing: No, the guy who pretended to be feminist wasn't secretly an alt-right fascist the whole time. He was secretly a NOTHING the whole time, you tard. The only people who can so perfectly comport themselves on-demand into what you want in a partner are empty, predatory husks looking to briefly fill themselves (by filling you).
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
I mean, corporations are generally not in the business of making frivolous expenditures.
Corporations are big enough that they have a heavy parasite load.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
...Why would I buy a home at the height of a real-estate bubble? Especially when I mention that I mostly sold phones up until COVID?
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
If it were the Russians, why would they blow up their own pipeline and not an enemy pipeline?
Is it a feature of slavic warfare to do lots of false-flag attacks, or to just claim everything is a false-flag attack?
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
I try to arrange my surroundings thoughtfully, like I'm making an enclosure for an animal I want to keep healthy and happy.
Decorations everywhere. An easy trick I found is that costco and walmart will print any damn JPEG you want, and most craft stores have a 40% single-item coupon for a basic black picture frame. The wall behind me includes: The God-Emperor (Of TTSD fame) Enthroned, a map of Middle Earth, some Arvalis Realistic Pokemon Reconstructions, and that scene from the Twitter Hearings with Jack Dorsey, Alex Jones, and Google Glass Guy, touched up with filters to look slightly Rembrandt-y.
Separate sleeping room. I've previously put my bed inside (ventilated) walk-in closets, so I have the entire room to myself, as it were. The bed is ideally in a small dark room with your clothes and valuables and nothing else functional, just a few soft decorations. No TV. The bedroom for sleeping, dressing, and fucking. Your actual room is more like a study; desk, computer, books, small couch/loveseat, hobby stuff.
Water availability. For whatever reason, you need water accessible in a way that feels "special." Just a pitcher of tapwater in the fridge will do the trick; it's more important to drink lots of water than to drink filtered water (unless there's lead in it).
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
I used to hear it a lot, enough to consider it a symptom of profound memetic infection, and to distance myself from the people who say it.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
all too often, it's intellectually lazy.
Sometimes the impression I get from a lot of "content" is that the writers are deeply disinterested in the subject matter of what they're working on. The people involved who are into wokeness insert wokeness, no one else cares enough to stop them.
You don't have to be particularly technically skilled in order to make something be woke; you just need familiarity with wokeness, so it's a great way for unskilled writers to pretend to contribute.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
A clever crypto-tankie and a guy who reflexively takes the anti-american position sound pretty much the same. Add some ironic Komrade-Posting and now they're larping as a Tankie, at least from the outside. "Non-tankie" Marxists still have to do a lot of mental heavy lifting to ignore all the horrific authoritarianism and mutilation of the human soul that happens every single time Marxists gain power. For people who say That Wasn't True Communism, Though, they sure do seem to be big fans of those regimes, which do much worse things than all the things they call the west a capitalist white supremacy for.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Sorta like how the 24-hour-news-cycle didn't exist before 9/11 and ever since then keeps looking for the next 9/11, the social media machine is getting hungry for dramabombs after all the recent wackiness has died down.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
My perspective on 4chan is very skewed, because I pretty much only use the /tg/ board, which has a much lower post volume than the other boards, has tighter moderation (by 4chan standards). What it has is CRITICISM. Everywhere else on the internet, people either shill, hugbox, or bait controversy. On /tg/, they nitpick. It's a relentlessly negative place, and an excellent one in which to hone your writing craft.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
In my time with college-educated 20somethings, they call a LOT of things "white."
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Women are infamous for complaining about things that men do but still fucking them anyways.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Thank you. I now understand why I'm so painfully frustrated every time I try to play D&D with the current crop of players.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
Most on-the-ground capital-C-communists are in it for the social clout and not for the ideological consistency. Calling the united states a fascist white supremacy makes certain women briefly forget about how much they're supposed to hate men. Calling china and russia those things doesn't get that reaction from college girls, so they don't. They also think that China will rule the world in the future, and they plan to be on China's good side, so they'll avoid saying anything one way or the other for the moment. One or two might be inept enough to let slip some outdated pro-russia content.
GavinSkulldrinker
1yr ago
So she made herself less pretty?
As an american, to me she looks ambiguously something-or-other; if her eyes were darker I'd think she was some manner of hispanic. I'd certainly not call her black without adding "...ish"
Is it a terrible idea for me to move to Seattle?
This isn't an optimize-my-career question. I have ADD and trouble keeping my opinions to myself. I'm early 30's with an undergrad zoology degree, but I've wound up mostly selling phones and doing nightclub security on the side occasionally. I was living in Milwaukee when my heart got badly mutilated in october of 2019, and riiiight when I was starting to recover from that, COVID happened.
During COVID I fell in with an old friend who had been somewhat-similarly dispossessed, but it turned out later it was for a reason (they were both terrible). He and I wound up in a new social circle and his behavior became increasingly manic, unaccountable, and manipulative, and eventually, violent. It was probably classic Borderline Personality Disorder dirty-bomb self-destruction, but he did it all while being woke and black-ish, so he got away with way too much. I eventually won, but it was a pyrrhic victory.
I was so disgusted with the situation, and lockdowns still weren't over in chicago itself, I took an office job in the north woods. That turned out to not go great; I got downsized in september and the town I'm in is uniquely meth-y. Most of the people I see around me look diseased, physically or mentally or both. The dating pool is so garbage there should be warning signs posted.
But my younger brother lives in Seattle, Redmond, specifically. 4 years younger, we get along very well, he's a bit anxious and un-motivated. We play video games a lot together lately, I've talked to him about the idea, he likes it but acknowledges there's lots of logistical challenges.
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