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Can you date folks with different politics?
I watch this stream yesterday and i find it quite interesting. Im actually kinda in this situation now, i took a girl on a date, she made it obvious she was a progressive. I often dont share my own views on these things in real life, due to how toxic these conversations can be, so i just try to listen and empathize with where the person is coming from. Though im planning to open my mouth a little more about things on the 2nd go round, as to not give a misleading representation of who i am.
Whats interesting is that the streamer in question distinct "politics" from "human rights", she gives a pretty weak example with Roe V Wade. However i think the distinction between "politics" and "human rights" is shaky to begin with. No one really agrees on what human rights even are, per her roe example, gun control (constitutional arguably, but still) being another one, & there are still societies/people that arent accepting of LGBT although thats been on the decline over some decades. My guess is she is taking this to mean, "you probably shouldnt date a nazi", which is perfectly fine. But there arent a lot of those guys around in this day and age. For myself, i dont really believe any idea is above criticism, so i dont see how having a different idea of what constitutes human rights is much different from just having different politics.
According to pew research, most people, (myself included) are fine with dating people across the political aisle {note that many people wouldnt date a trump voter, but many would date a republican, but i suspect many people might view trump as a fundamentally immoral individual, and thus that makes him distinct from just mere disagreement}. I also find that peoples political beliefs arent good measures of how moral they are in real life. There are many progressives ive seen who were cheaters, liars, lazy, ect & conservatives who were kind hearted, hard working, & loving ect (& vice versa). But i want to know what you guys think.
I remember seeing Chicago Tinder in the summer of 2020. I saw lots of bios that indicated that "trump supporters" and people who don't believe "ACAB" would be denied or should otherwise "swipe left."
I also recall quite a few bios stating that they don't date racists, then went on to say "People of Color Only." This left me rather confused, as I've previously been told in real life that People of Color CAN'T be racist, rending much of the text redundant. I was also confused as to why racists would be so opposed to dating racists.
Typically either white, or ambiguously brunette (It's Chicago, so there's lots of dusky women who could be some manner of mexican/puerto-rican/blatino/asianish, or a pretty european woman with a tan, or one of the really olive slavs.) but there were one or two Ask-Me-About-My-Blackness Black women, IIRC.
I find it offensive to my cognition that they have say "I Hate Racists and Racism" right there on the page in addition to "No Whites." How do they themselves not notice the contradiction while typing? I know they think you can't be racist to white people, definitionally, but the arrangement of the words should be enough for them to think "Hmmm, I know there's nothing technically inconsistent here, but maybe I should tighten this up a bit with a re-write". Also, if they hate white people so much, White People = Racist, so they could save space and just say "I Hate Racists," then white people and cops are covered (Oh, but not Cops of Color, dang).
I just don't believe that young women in major metropolitan areas are beset on all sides by legions of MAGA-cap-wearing, Fox-News-Watching, RNC-Attending, Heated-Gamer-Moment-Having young men who loudly bray how much they despise all the mud-people around women they want to fuck. I don't think these statements of preference are honest expressions of frustration, and I'm also annoyed that a guy's profile saying "No Fat Chicks" is treated as a fucking hate crime against women by these same people.
I want a meme or wall of shame or infographic or whatever that's just a compliation of Tinder profiles full of stupid political demands, with captions like:
"#CurrentYear Much?"
"Are you trying to connect with a human, or campaigning for office? Pick one"
"We can Tell What #CurrentThing was When You Last Updated This"
And they'd be well-selected, too. No obvious troll accounts or snapchat/OF bait, serious genuine profiles by people who look on the attractive end of normal. People of both genders. People who look like your friends. People who look like you. Holding up a mirror to people is just about the only "magic bullet" argument for changing minds in the culture war.
"I am trying to connect with a high-status human, by appearing to be high-status myself," so yeah, basically campaigning for office.
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