Joyful
1yr ago
Mods could simply have said “we will take a harsher line on discussion around trans issues because of the admins”.
But this is one of the most interesting areas where the reddit party line is clearly illogical to the point of psychosis. Not being able to deeply discuss it before the recent child and sports lines really brought it to the front of the culture war was bad, and not being able to discuss it now as the hottest culture war item would suck.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yes, despite monthly reminders that some employees are different and might be treated badly and should be on the lookout for jerks that secretly don't like them, they don't feel the same as everyone else. Shocking. Perhaps they need to join more "you look different from the majority" employee groups.
Joyful
1yr ago
I prefer genderspecial. Probably because I've lost all patience with being expected to play along with the games of random people I don't know or barely know but who demand I agree to pretend I believe their version of reality on pain of social ostracism.
Joyful
1yr ago
I'd practice concentration by 1) mindfullness meditation and 2) reading things you enjoy. When you can read a book you enjoy for 3 or 4 hours at a stretch, you'll find it a lot easier to focus on work for an hour at a time.
Joyful
1yr ago
Just wanted to say that I'm doing the potassium trial (conceived on the idea that potassium is why the potato diet works) and am around day 10. The first week was consistent losses (and I'm not a person who usually has a lot of spare glycogen) but I've now leveled out for three days and my appetite actually came back yesterday. My hangover from a non-enormous amount of wine was also brutal. I'm still stepping up the amount of potassium so hopefully I'll see a new low number in the next couple of days but I spent last week wondering if I'd finally found "that one weird trick" the internet is always promising us.
Joyful
1yr ago
I agree with this and your other statements in the thread.
And I also want to note that Eichner (known as that guy with the obnoxious voice from Parks and Rec?) is not bringing the level of charisma that a typical romantic lead of either gender has to have for a typical rom-com. There is no movie he could star in that would do well. I think there could possibly be a gay rom-com that women would be willing to see, but it would have to be a traditional rom-com script (not preachy, not sexual) and cute, charismatic actors that we already like.
Joyful
1yr ago
I hate that Lindsey Ellis gave up on her interesting public work (making youtube videos) because of stupidity on twitter. Just leave twitter!
Joyful
1yr ago
People like jake gyllenhal and heath ledger. Not so much the annoying voiced sommelier from Parks and Rec.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yes, but I feel like the male hosts are just annoying the contestants out of boredom these days. Mel and Sue were so warm and encouraging and Noel is weird and Matt Lucas is obnoxious. I had the realization last week that after six years of devotion I really don't care to watch week to week this year.
Joyful
1yr ago
I've definitely discovered books nominated for the goodreads choice awards where they had more votes than they had actual goodreads readers (just the kinds of signaling books you would expect). So they are being pushed externally somehow, whether that is by publishers or authors or social media, I don't know.
I also find those awards problematic because Amazon pushes them the same year they are published, but many popular fiction titles that aren't by a major author take 2-3 years to peak, by which time they no longer show up on that list.
Total ratings is a good gauge of actual popularity of books though.
Joyful
1yr ago
And Occam's Razor would suggest it was very simple, that between talking to you and texting on your phone, she preferred the latter.
Since plenty of people find themselves in this situation with even their own friends who are choosing to hang out with them, I'd go with this. No big explanation necessary.
Joyful
1yr ago
Much more true of mtf than ftm. Gc feminists are very supportive of detransitioning women.
Joyful
1yr ago
Depends on why you are doing it. If it is for reference and retention, you'd probably be best off taking a picture and then writing your own summary and thoughts than just typing it all out.
Joyful
1yr ago
t just has to be plausibly deniable so that the girl can tell herself (and her friends, and her family, and her boyfriend/husband...) that she really didn't mean to sleep with the guy, but it "just happened". It's a way to get past her anti-slut defense.
It's not an anti-slut defense. It's a reasonable out "if I change my mind once we are alone" defense. Even with people I know well and have had sex with before (exes) I don't like the pressure of inviting someone over for sex explicitly. Because sometimes you change your mind, and you feel pressured by your earlier offer/commitment. Much less with a stranger. (I've never found myself in this situation with a stranger).
Joyful
1yr ago
I disagree. I think by making this their hill to die on and then no one caring they have lost influence on future commercial endeavors the trans movement would disapprove of. Future producers will be a lot less easily frightened by activist underlings when they cannot point to this having tanked the biggest game of the year.
Joyful
1yr ago
My guess is that it is a way to notice there might be a problem. As a teenage girl it would never have occurred to me to tell anyone if my period became irregular. How horrifying to raise the topic! Most teenage girls have not yet seen a gynecologist (btw, who ask on their intake forms the date of your last period, for this very reason.) Their individual coaches should be aware of this but I can see how specifically asking would seem intrusive and weird.
Joyful
1yr ago
I'd rather it start with 10% dischargeable and then work up to 50% over the course of a decade or so. (with the amount discharged transferred as debt or as reductions caps on annual grants to the given institution the discharged debt came from). 100% dischargeable makes a masters in theater more appealing not less.
Joyful
1yr ago
Not a lot outside of reality tv which is about their weight but This is Us comes to mind (just to give an example because you didn't, not disagreeing).
Joyful
1yr ago
I question whether obscure Canadian sitcom counts as mainstream (although I enjoy it).
Joyful
1yr ago
Greys Anatomy had a really interesting Christian doctor for years and it led to really interesting story lines regarding sex, marriage, crises of faith and ultimately abortion. Pity she was removed to free up her love interest for an unpopular character that the writers wanted to center.
Joyful
1yr ago
Gone Girl is amazing, both the book and the movie. It is strange that she hasn't written a novel in ten years.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yep. One of my friends was a standard fat gamer programming nerd until the pandemic. Funny, if a bit incel-y in personality (he made some occasional sexist comments that were annoying but not fatal to our friendship). During the pandemic he finally lost the weight and I was thinking "Hey, maybe we can finally get this guy a date. Funny, decent job, tall enough, starting to look like a viking" I wouldn't date him myself for a couple of reasons, but get some good pictures for an online dating profile and we can improve his quality of life a lot (he's prone to depressive episodes and loneliness).
I brought up the topic and he said "actually, I'm not thinking about dating at all right now because I've been seeing a gender therapist for a year." We've hung out five or six times since then (over two years), with each hang out getting more uncomfortable and creepy, and now I'm dodging his calls (I'm not misgendering btw, he's never formally asked me to change names or pronouns). Somehow "man wearing a dress" freaks me out less than "man wearing a dress and boobs." It's much more 'it rubs the lotion on its skin'. He did finally (briefly) date someone (an older woman) during this process, but broke up with her because she obviously saw him as a man.
So yes. We're not close enough for me to suck it up and lie and not distant enough for me to just be polite. Hence the avoiding.
https://qz.com/574693/americans-working-less-than-ever-before/ From 2016 but shows that the lowest income quartile works less than 30 hours a week and the highest three all more than 40.
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