Joyful
6mo ago
I'm not sure if anyone shared this last week. Ryan Murphy (youtuber that discusses military things) broke down/translated some military orders found on a Hamas soldier showing the extent of the planning of the attack. I watched it on his substack because he said the youtube version was edited for monetization. https://ryanmcbeth.substack.com/p/inside-the-hamas-operations-order This is for a group that attacked one of the kibbutzim. The most interesting stuff to me was that they carried no water, med kits, and the plan is missing the parts of the operation manual that usually detail medical evacuation procedures (saying this was unsurprisingly considered to be a one way trip, hostage takers returning to gaza aside). I was also surprised at the detail they had on the directions and timings of possible defense forces to arrive. He also has some shorts where he looks at a couple of propaganda videos and says why he thinks they are fake.
Joyful
10mo ago
Mike is small and unthreatening. No one looks to "clock" a transman because he's not winning Man of the Year Awards, male olympic medals, or scaring anyone with his genitals in a bathroom. It's not that somehow Mike just is a man, its mostly that people don't care because his identity doesn't revolve around forcing other people to acknowledge and validate his fetish.
Until it is, and then people are just as angry at Mike as Dylan. When Mike yells at gay men on twitter or tries to cancel them because they say no to vaginas, or where Mike's family finds the idea of calling their daughter "he" ridiculous, the screeching is just as loud.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yes, despite monthly reminders that some employees are different and might be treated badly and should be on the lookout for jerks that secretly don't like them, they don't feel the same as everyone else. Shocking. Perhaps they need to join more "you look different from the majority" employee groups.
Joyful
10mo ago
Female perspective. Profile pics are the most important thing for most of those platforms.
You need:
Proof of teeth,
Proof of hair (one way or the other),
Proof of friends,
Proof of hobby/activity (all selfies isn't getting this done). One of these photos should show that you have a body as well.
It would great if you were wearing something nicer than a tshirt in at least one of the photos. If you don't have the latter two types of photos go to some meetups. Lack of friends/activities is very unattractive.
As for the height issue, it is obviously important, but don't know what to tell you. I'm personally fine dating down to my own height 5'6 but everyone under 5'10 on all of these sites seems to be lying so I usually keep that in mind.
Final tip that nothing in your profile should be negative and about things you don't want.
Joyful
1yr ago
Browsing a few pages of twitter I'd say its 15% supportive 85% "they look so uncomfortable" "how could he do this to his family" etc.
Joyful
1yr ago
And Occam's Razor would suggest it was very simple, that between talking to you and texting on your phone, she preferred the latter.
Since plenty of people find themselves in this situation with even their own friends who are choosing to hang out with them, I'd go with this. No big explanation necessary.
Joyful
11mo ago
A female history buff here. I agree that "female writers about history are just as likely as men to be drawn to history by the wonder of contemplating different worlds rather than by any sort of political ideology". I personally love that about history. When you get far enough back things just were a certain way and no one tries to get all moralistic about it.
From watching Youtube historians, I do sometimes feel like women feel pressured by modern politics to make asides ("of course this is only what the white women of a certain class were wearing") but women feel more social pressure from negative comments, in general, I think.
There might be an illusion that women want to analyze history from a Marxian/feminist lens but that is what academia has done to the humanities and scholars having to be careerist to survive, it doesn't seem to permeate voluntary history enjoyment at all.
Another thing which comes to my mind: aren't women the main consumers of historical dramas in both text and visual form? I do not think that most of them read those books and watch those shows because they want to get enraged by the lack of feminism in previous time periods. They read and watch them because they find themselves captivated by them.
Yes, this.
Joyful
1yr ago
As a person who doesn't care about this issue, no not really. I don't see it as life altering in any meaningful way. i'm not sure what would move the needle enough to make me concerned, a high complication rate? But no, very different from chemical castration and brain growth retardation.
Joyful
10mo ago
Children are also much more likely to die by accident in the care of a step-parent. Not sure of the number offhand, eight times, I think.
Joyful
11mo ago
If the best concrete argument you have for attacking the idea of transgenderism is that it has the potential to create unfair disparities in women's sports,
It's the one that is most obvious but the implications are much broader. We have protections for women's spaces in our society for very real reasons and allowing males into those spaces because they want in has real harms. Prisons are another concrete example but people care more about athletes than criminals so this is a better wedge issue.
Joyful
1yr ago
Mods could simply have said “we will take a harsher line on discussion around trans issues because of the admins”.
But this is one of the most interesting areas where the reddit party line is clearly illogical to the point of psychosis. Not being able to deeply discuss it before the recent child and sports lines really brought it to the front of the culture war was bad, and not being able to discuss it now as the hottest culture war item would suck.
Joyful
10mo ago
No, 40 CFR 120.2 defines "waters of the United States" to include wetlands, and "wetlands" to mean "those areas that are inundated or saturated by surface or ground water at a frequency and duration sufficient to support, and that under normal circumstances do support, a prevalence of vegetation typically adapted for life in saturated soil conditions." And according to the Court's decision, that definition dates to the early 1980s.
That helps clarify part of what I saw about the case (the Reason video from six months ago) where the EPA also demanded they plant wetland plants on the land where none such plants grew. Ridiculous.
Joyful
1mo ago
Everything else aside, it boggles the mind that it is considered appropriate for a non-verbal student to be mainstreamed.
Joyful
7mo ago
Survival of the Prettiest, the Science of Beauty (book) talks about the different features we find attractive (primarily in women). The reasons we like paleness, certain body ratios, symmetry, etc. Mostly it boils down to neoteny, health, and sexual dimorphism.
It also talks about how you can exaggerate those features and end up with Jessica Rabbit, who technically looks ridiculous, but she still seems sexy. I guess all of anime bears out those tendencies as well.
Joyful
1yr ago
I really wish Lindsay Ellis had quit twitter rather than youtube over that idiocy.
Joyful
1yr ago
Can someone link the actual tiktok videos? Searching without an account doesn't give you videos but channels.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yep. One of my friends was a standard fat gamer programming nerd until the pandemic. Funny, if a bit incel-y in personality (he made some occasional sexist comments that were annoying but not fatal to our friendship). During the pandemic he finally lost the weight and I was thinking "Hey, maybe we can finally get this guy a date. Funny, decent job, tall enough, starting to look like a viking" I wouldn't date him myself for a couple of reasons, but get some good pictures for an online dating profile and we can improve his quality of life a lot (he's prone to depressive episodes and loneliness).
I brought up the topic and he said "actually, I'm not thinking about dating at all right now because I've been seeing a gender therapist for a year." We've hung out five or six times since then (over two years), with each hang out getting more uncomfortable and creepy, and now I'm dodging his calls (I'm not misgendering btw, he's never formally asked me to change names or pronouns). Somehow "man wearing a dress" freaks me out less than "man wearing a dress and boobs." It's much more 'it rubs the lotion on its skin'. He did finally (briefly) date someone (an older woman) during this process, but broke up with her because she obviously saw him as a man.
So yes. We're not close enough for me to suck it up and lie and not distant enough for me to just be polite. Hence the avoiding.
Joyful
1yr ago
Greys Anatomy had a really interesting Christian doctor for years and it led to really interesting story lines regarding sex, marriage, crises of faith and ultimately abortion. Pity she was removed to free up her love interest for an unpopular character that the writers wanted to center.
Joyful
1yr ago
I question whether obscure Canadian sitcom counts as mainstream (although I enjoy it).
Joyful
1yr ago
Much more true of mtf than ftm. Gc feminists are very supportive of detransitioning women.
Joyful
1yr ago
Just wanted to say that I'm doing the potassium trial (conceived on the idea that potassium is why the potato diet works) and am around day 10. The first week was consistent losses (and I'm not a person who usually has a lot of spare glycogen) but I've now leveled out for three days and my appetite actually came back yesterday. My hangover from a non-enormous amount of wine was also brutal. I'm still stepping up the amount of potassium so hopefully I'll see a new low number in the next couple of days but I spent last week wondering if I'd finally found "that one weird trick" the internet is always promising us.
Joyful
5mo ago
and result in more deaths
?? The estimates I've seen were something like an extra 1600 homicides per year across certain cities. You think that is more deaths than we are going to see out of this war?
I too used to feel bad for intersex athletes but at the end of the day the existence of extremely rare intersex individuals is not an argument to let men compete with women based on their desire to do so.
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