Joyful
3mo ago
In library school this topic was taught as "dealing with our homeless patrons" and balancing their right to use the internet freely like the dignified upstanding citizens they are with preventing children from seeing them masturbate in public.
Joyful
1yr ago
I'm not sure if anyone shared this last week. Ryan Murphy (youtuber that discusses military things) broke down/translated some military orders found on a Hamas soldier showing the extent of the planning of the attack. I watched it on his substack because he said the youtube version was edited for monetization. https://ryanmcbeth.substack.com/p/inside-the-hamas-operations-order This is for a group that attacked one of the kibbutzim. The most interesting stuff to me was that they carried no water, med kits, and the plan is missing the parts of the operation manual that usually detail medical evacuation procedures (saying this was unsurprisingly considered to be a one way trip, hostage takers returning to gaza aside). I was also surprised at the detail they had on the directions and timings of possible defense forces to arrive. He also has some shorts where he looks at a couple of propaganda videos and says why he thinks they are fake.
Joyful
2yr ago
Mike is small and unthreatening. No one looks to "clock" a transman because he's not winning Man of the Year Awards, male olympic medals, or scaring anyone with his genitals in a bathroom. It's not that somehow Mike just is a man, its mostly that people don't care because his identity doesn't revolve around forcing other people to acknowledge and validate his fetish.
Until it is, and then people are just as angry at Mike as Dylan. When Mike yells at gay men on twitter or tries to cancel them because they say no to vaginas, or where Mike's family finds the idea of calling their daughter "he" ridiculous, the screeching is just as loud.
Joyful
9mo ago
I made a few jokes about how she will be sucking me off too at which point she stopped and told me that this is not happening. I left and later told her to fuck herself when I saw her again.
This is... not how to talk to women. Not ever. Not women that tease you, not women that frustrate you, not anyone. You'll give every woman the ick.
Joyful
2yr ago
Yes, despite monthly reminders that some employees are different and might be treated badly and should be on the lookout for jerks that secretly don't like them, they don't feel the same as everyone else. Shocking. Perhaps they need to join more "you look different from the majority" employee groups.
Joyful
5mo ago
I'd love a thread with replies for every EO to discuss, there is just too much here for us for one week.
I think doing the naming thing was stupid and I was thrilled for gender nonsense takedown.
Joyful
2yr ago
Female perspective. Profile pics are the most important thing for most of those platforms.
You need:
Proof of teeth,
Proof of hair (one way or the other),
Proof of friends,
Proof of hobby/activity (all selfies isn't getting this done). One of these photos should show that you have a body as well.
It would great if you were wearing something nicer than a tshirt in at least one of the photos. If you don't have the latter two types of photos go to some meetups. Lack of friends/activities is very unattractive.
As for the height issue, it is obviously important, but don't know what to tell you. I'm personally fine dating down to my own height 5'6 but everyone under 5'10 on all of these sites seems to be lying so I usually keep that in mind.
Final tip that nothing in your profile should be negative and about things you don't want.
Joyful
2yr ago
Browsing a few pages of twitter I'd say its 15% supportive 85% "they look so uncomfortable" "how could he do this to his family" etc.
Joyful
10mo ago
The governments purposes for tracking sex should not be about the feelings of the individual being tracked, but about keeping accurate records for the census, crime, and other statistics. I'd say that having a listed sex other than your apparent (actual) one is a major problem.
Joyful
2yr ago
And Occam's Razor would suggest it was very simple, that between talking to you and texting on your phone, she preferred the latter.
Since plenty of people find themselves in this situation with even their own friends who are choosing to hang out with them, I'd go with this. No big explanation necessary.
Joyful
4mo ago
bloody the nose of one of America's two main rivals
Does anyone think Russia is a rival? For what? Hearts and minds? The world wants to move here. We have multiple states with a bigger GDP. Slavic population is going to keep shrinking.
Not saying they don't matter, nukes and resources matter, but rival is over-egging the pudding.
Joyful
11mo ago
What is this kind of thinking called? The gist is "what my opponent should want (which is what I want) according to this value he says he holds rather than what he really wants." I also think of this as the "good republican" as written by aaron sorkin where his republicans that you like are only republican in ways he can agree with or at least understand and the opinions he hates are reserved to bad/stupid characters.
Examples (sorry if these aren't the best, but I think I show the logical twist):
"Democrats should be opposed to abortion because they think everyone has equal value in our society, even the unwanted and unaffordable children of the poor. (Alternately Rawlings Veil)".
"Republicans should support lots of immigration to push down labor costs so they can make more money."
I found myself drifting into this mode of thinking earlier in the gaza war ("Qatar should declare themselves opposed to terrorism and seize the bank accounts of the Hamas leaders because hey free billions and goodwill as the continued reasonable center of the middle east") and I was wondering whether there was a name for it.
Joyful
2yr ago
A female history buff here. I agree that "female writers about history are just as likely as men to be drawn to history by the wonder of contemplating different worlds rather than by any sort of political ideology". I personally love that about history. When you get far enough back things just were a certain way and no one tries to get all moralistic about it.
From watching Youtube historians, I do sometimes feel like women feel pressured by modern politics to make asides ("of course this is only what the white women of a certain class were wearing") but women feel more social pressure from negative comments, in general, I think.
There might be an illusion that women want to analyze history from a Marxian/feminist lens but that is what academia has done to the humanities and scholars having to be careerist to survive, it doesn't seem to permeate voluntary history enjoyment at all.
Another thing which comes to my mind: aren't women the main consumers of historical dramas in both text and visual form? I do not think that most of them read those books and watch those shows because they want to get enraged by the lack of feminism in previous time periods. They read and watch them because they find themselves captivated by them.
Yes, this.
Joyful
2yr ago
As a person who doesn't care about this issue, no not really. I don't see it as life altering in any meaningful way. i'm not sure what would move the needle enough to make me concerned, a high complication rate? But no, very different from chemical castration and brain growth retardation.
Joyful
10mo ago
I took a moment to look this up. An example of an old-timey rate, In Sweden and Finland in 1800, for example, around 900 mothers died for every 100,000 live births. That's about 1% per birth, so if you had more than 10 pregnancies (which a married young rich woman might as you say) maybe you could get lifetime risks around 10%.
There are still countries in africa where more than 1 in 20 women can expect to die in childbirth.
Joyful
2yr ago
Children are also much more likely to die by accident in the care of a step-parent. Not sure of the number offhand, eight times, I think.
Joyful
2yr ago
If the best concrete argument you have for attacking the idea of transgenderism is that it has the potential to create unfair disparities in women's sports,
It's the one that is most obvious but the implications are much broader. We have protections for women's spaces in our society for very real reasons and allowing males into those spaces because they want in has real harms. Prisons are another concrete example but people care more about athletes than criminals so this is a better wedge issue.
Joyful
2yr ago
Mods could simply have said “we will take a harsher line on discussion around trans issues because of the admins”.
But this is one of the most interesting areas where the reddit party line is clearly illogical to the point of psychosis. Not being able to deeply discuss it before the recent child and sports lines really brought it to the front of the culture war was bad, and not being able to discuss it now as the hottest culture war item would suck.
Joyful
1mo ago
I'd also add that this kind of surgery flags you as super vain to most western women. If its not making a huge difference it might be signaling you don't want to take on.
Joyful
1mo ago
I developed a daily nap habit during the pandemic (wfh) that I would like to break. I always liked a weekend nap but this is ridiculous. I don't think this is actually "need for sleep" based because it happens regardless of the actual amount of sleep I get the night before and unlike at night it often takes quite a while to fall asleep. I'm sick of wasting 2 hours every afternoon so I pulled out the ole Atomic Habits to approach the problem anew. Now is a good time to tackle this as I recently moved so that is a good time to create new habits.
Things I've tried:
- more coffee. Delays onset of nap once I lie down but does not prevent me from wanting to nap.
- moving nap location from bed to couch to be less comfy. I will lie down on the couch but my sleepy self cannot be persuaded to not move once I want to really start the nap
- substitute meditation. fine, now I want my nap
Most stuff on the internet treats this like a sleep problem but it really isn't. It tends to happen regardless of sleep quantity and quality. It also happens whether or not I ate lunch so it isn't that. Naps are a great breaker of anxious or depressed states for me, so part of what I'm craving is that emotional reset (hence starting in the pandemic), but the daily nap happens regardless of mood.
Ok atomic habits says every habit has a cue, craving, response, reward.
Cues: bored, start mid-afternoon energy slump, craving emotional security, seeing it is 1 or 2 on the clock, glimpse beautiful cool sheets (which cues are most important?)
Craving: craving to nap wants only to nap and cannot be logicked to "go for a walk" (I walk enough taking the dog out 4x a day, thank you) or "go to the gym" as an alternative. Craving-self will not turn on an alarm to take an insufficient nap or similar nap limiting behaviors. I can take a book to the bed with me but reading and sleeping go together so this almost never prevents sleep.
Response/Reward: nap of 1-2.5 hours, emotional reset, possibly broken by having to pee because coffee.
So for some habits you can try to make them unappealing, but I don't want to do anything to undermine my desire for sleep in general. Instead I think we want to add some points of friction and set up an alternative behavior for that time of day.
Friction: close bedroom door and block it with laundry basket
Alternative: sit down in living room at first sign of craving and watch specific new tv show I haven't seen, telling craving self this is just a 45 minute delay to nap
Alternative: drink diet soda at 1-2pm rather than with lunch
Any other ideas?
Joyful
3mo ago
Adding that I think its a time thing, any kid that goes on puberty blockers for more than a few months will never proceed through all of the puberty phases (even if you give them cross sex hormones) and they hit their 20s unable to orgasm. Not to mention the nasty damage it does to their brains (possibly an entire standard deviation of IQ).
Joyful
3mo ago
Woman here. I find nothing arousing about men kissing. Women who are into gay anime do exist but this is far from universal.
Joyful
5mo ago
Early twitter speculated it was an incompetent trans "woman" pilot that may have intentionally crashed the chopper. I've seen other sources (I like https://x.com/sentdefender) that says this is nonsense but now two of the pilots names have been released and the third is being withheld "on request of the family." Which does not soothe the twitter beast.
I too used to feel bad for intersex athletes but at the end of the day the existence of extremely rare intersex individuals is not an argument to let men compete with women based on their desire to do so.
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