Joyful
7mo ago
I found this extremely refreshing. The central example of rape is "woman was minding her own business when someone broke into her house and forced her". It is incredible how little of what gets called "rape" actually fits that category, and can be better described as "woman cruising for a dicking regrets the dicking come next morning". It is the worst argument in the world, enshrined into our legal code.
I find this a deeply icky way to generalize date rape involving intoxicants or sex with young teenagers.
Joyful
7mo ago
I find your comment confusing. You disliked sexy teenage movies because you were a teenager not having sex?
Joyful
1yr ago
MtFs commit crimes at the same rate as other men (and sex crimes at 5-6 times the rate).
I'd rather be in a sketchy womens bathroom with any randomly chosen male rather than one that deliberately wanted to be there.
Joyful
3mo ago
Clarification: In this metaphor is a woman having your child the chef and you are the... eater of the baby?
Joyful
6mo ago
Its not an amazing poem but definitely a poem, clearly understood as such.
I have some nitpicks, the last stanza is terrible and there are some poor other lines, I don't like "while gaudier prints took on the grime and stains of daily wear" not sure how I'd rewrite it (remove the "on" or a more dramatic surgery).
Yes, older poetry has structure and rhythm as well as words, and it is fine to prefer a clear rhyme, a clever structure to this, but modern poetry is still poetry. More about mood and image than language play.
Joyful
7mo ago
Lacking experience is a pretty big lacking. I would add lacking experience AND JUDGEMENT, though (see anyone that takes on 6 figures of debt for an art history degree). The real question is was it easier for a 16 year old to be an adult in previous centuries because mostly you were able to learn all the things growing up in your village that you needed to know as an adult then? Is it only modern complex society that requires more time to learn enough to not fuck up?
Joyful
10mo ago
Apollo - https://youtube.com/watch?v=tonI_hzrgrA&t=34s (talking parrot)
Joyful
11mo ago
That family! Lots of chimerism. Like their embryos are porous and bad at maintaining integrity.
Joyful
8mo ago
For example I don't know if we've ever won before, and I don't care. Also true of mens soccer. I generally know who won the super bowl and have watched it a few times. It also makes the news when the baseball and hockey stuff (stanley cup and... ok don't know the name of the baseball.... world series?)
Joyful
9mo ago
Yes, but if we are going to have transnational thursdays, each country a person posts about should be their own reply not in the top level or mushed together in one comment.
Joyful
10mo ago
I don't think many people are meaningfully able to notice a benefit that won't exist for 50 years, nor are willing to put up with repercussions (severe ones) that will last for 49, so I think 50 is a good line there.
I definitely believe in adverse possession for lands held that long.
Joyful
11mo ago
Should I text back at like 9PM to reschedule and then add something cheeky like “you owe me the entire Stairway to Heaven solo now btw”?
This would put my back up, as a woman. If she cancelled because she doesn't want to go out with you, then nothing you say matters. If she was genuinely busy and does want to go again, the word "owe" is going to strike a sour note.
Joyful
11mo ago
I take the burns depression index and log the score every month, that might be a good addition to your metrics:
I'd also agree to just do it in a spreadsheet. Apps get too annoying as health trackers because they all want to push coaching and subscriptions over data entry and display.
Joyful
11mo ago
I can't stress how little importance the exact way you ask someone out has.
As a girl, this. She knows you. Either she would like to see more of you or she wouldn't so the wording won't really matter. If you have her number feel free to just text her if you don't want to do it in person.
Joyful
1yr ago
My guess is that it is a way to notice there might be a problem. As a teenage girl it would never have occurred to me to tell anyone if my period became irregular. How horrifying to raise the topic! Most teenage girls have not yet seen a gynecologist (btw, who ask on their intake forms the date of your last period, for this very reason.) Their individual coaches should be aware of this but I can see how specifically asking would seem intrusive and weird.
Joyful
1yr ago
I hate that Lindsey Ellis gave up on her interesting public work (making youtube videos) because of stupidity on twitter. Just leave twitter!
Read the book "Clean Code" by Robert Martin.
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