KingOfTheBailey
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KingOfTheBailey
4d ago
A question on Manifold was resolved in the negative, and thankfully not because he died in an anonymous patch of the Alaskan wilderness:
He says he's no longer actively planning any preparations, so I think I'll go ahead and resolve this NO. But he says he's still "kinda thinking" about doing it next winter, so I might make a new market then if anything ends up coming to fruition.
"something happens to move us to the next scene"
This link is broken, but I'm reminded of the way Dude, Where's My Car? literally yanks the main characters off the street multiple times to get them to the next scene. It depresses me to think that mainstream modern movies are now at the level of writing that powered a (classic) intentionally dumb comedy.
KingOfTheBailey
2d ago
Sailors' tattoos were also earned e.g. a swallow meant you'd sailed 5000 miles. It wasn't all just covering yourself in random pictures.
KingOfTheBailey
2d ago
I managed to willpower my way to stop biting my nails after years and years of that, but
Congratulations, ceasing nail-biting is very difficult. This makes me think you have a better shot at fixing your diet than a random obese person off the street, since you've already achieved one lifestyle change from willpower alone. I hope that you have greater success now that you have chemical assistance. Good luck.
KingOfTheBailey
3d ago
I can only assume that his mind latched onto the most extreme "solution" to the extreme "problem" with which he diagnosed himself.
KingOfTheBailey
5d ago
I wound down my Hinge account because I stumbled into a promising relationship with a girl I knew IRL, but this rings true for me. At the time I wrapped things up, I was getting enough dates with women that I was excited to meet without being overwhelmed by the volume, and had to disappoint several decent-sounding women before I deleted.
Seconding the recommendation to use positive, information-dense prompts. The poll option on your profile is particularly good for this, as it lets you put three positive aspects of yourself into a single widget.
On messaging: here are some decent templates. https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-3/#chapter-1-templates
I like these because they push inexorably towards a date, but I had more success not following them than forcing the conversation back onto those rails. Unlike the author of that series, I was looking for an LTR, not to get laid as frequently as possible. But the permission to always move towards a date (if not directly), and to be a little bit sexual and direct, was very useful in setting my intentions on the platform.
Also, Hinge has capped the number of open conversations on a user's account. This is a good thing, as it forces both men and women to either get to the point and arrange a date, or to unmatch and move on.
On getting matched from your likes: I never could tell if Hinge used a stack or a queue for incoming matches. It might show the newest incoming likes first and then maintain a queue after that or something, I dunno. But it often happened that I would get a slow rise in matches coming in a few weeks after I started, usually around the time I began to despair. Have patience.
OP should also think about approaching women in real life. A lot of them complain on the apps that they only have accounts because nobody talks IRL any more.
It's like this because you're in one of the rare online venues where thoroughness is rewarded, and the parent parent parent culture of LessWrong seeded ours with norms around writing massive walls of text.
Most of GP's advice is about not shooting yourself in the foot. How not to get your likes ignored. How not to have a conversation fizzle out. etc. Get to the date and enjoy spending time with women, even if they're not the women you'll end up dating long-term or marrying.
Or you could just attempt The Hock, I guess?
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