Obsidian
1yr ago
It's too involved of a relationship.
That pattern sounds dangerous, both in this specific instance and in the more general case.
You can definitely take "trust but verify" too far, especially with friends and romantic partners (rather than professional associates).
Obsidian
1yr ago
I fucking love olives. I would eat them all the time if they weren't so expensive.
Kalamata olives, olives stuffed with garlic or pimento, olive bread, olives in greek salad... holy shit dude
Obsidian
1yr ago
new age Q-ists are pretty big about bonding, praise and positive emotion. Lots of yoga teachers and what not.
Obsidian
1yr ago
Did anyone else get cold sweats, shivering and nausea since this morning? Just me?
Obsidian
1yr ago
But I actually think this may be an accidentally brilliant choice.
Nope, it was very intentional. Reddit political echo chamber dynamics are well-understood, and we doubled down time after time on the megathread format because it introduced friction in those dynamics the way you describe.
Obsidian
1yr ago
Yes, the concept of passing is contradictory with many other trans related concepts but it's often not seen because the whole of the trans movement is half dozen totally incompatible frameworks glued together while every tries their best to ignore the seams.
Either this is self-evident, in which case why post it? Or it's not, and you ought to unfold.
Obsidian
1yr ago
I'm strongly against this kind of artificial legibility. It can enable newcomers to perform acquaintance of the community far beyond where they're at.
Keep things hidden in plain sight lest you scrap the pipeline.
Obsidian
1yr ago
You're probably missing some important machinery around time preference and tradeoffs.
Obsidian
1yr ago
Something's missing. From the stuff you tried, it sounds like maybe it is that you don't spend enough quality time with quality people.
As for myself, I try to keep a stable representation of who I want to be and what I deserve, and then I pay homage to that by getting up, going out, connecting with people, working out, etc.
Obsidian
1yr ago
I went to choir for the first time last night. Seriously one of the most elevating experiences I've had in the past ten years.
It compares favorably to psychedelics: same category of experience, but lower commitment and more materially meaningful.
Obsidian
1yr ago
Secular choir but mostly Christian songs, including one eastern orthodox (because Ukraine).
Obsidian
1yr ago
I'm not worried about enabling trolls, I'm worried about enabling larpers. There are a number of them on the site already, but as of right now they're not too hard to pick out from the crowd.
Obsidian
1yr ago
There isn't some Platonic ideal of a Mottian which one can possess or not.
I think as a community we should refuse to welcome anyone who hasn't read 100,000 words on SSC, but that's just me. It's not about seniority, it's about (in venerable internet lingo) LURKING MOAR.
Obsidian
1yr ago
I think something important is lost when someone picks up the signifiers but not the signified. Signals get muddled. I'm just advocating for high-context culture.
Obsidian
1yr ago
"Articulated and defended clearly" is much easier when working from a shared base of facts, OR when outsiderness is evident.
Obsidian
1yr ago
It's funny because this is OCD spectrum behaviour but there's no telling whether there's a hidden sixth point that goes "also, OCD is ruining my life" or if this is the full extent of your quirkiness
Obsidian
1yr ago
Definitely one of the most important posts to have come out of old Motte.
Obsidian
1yr ago
This is 1000% dependent on your social context. As a francophone in Montreal I don't expect to have to abide by any peer-requested COVID restriction measures for the rest of my life, that's just not where the meta is. So it means nothing if I say that I would decline any and all requests, since anyone who made that request would just be marking themselves as not worth dealing with.
Obsidian
1yr ago
I have no answer for you but I feel like plugging that Unsong has such a scene.
Great book, edited wrong. It evens out.
Obsidian
1yr ago
Ring Fit did something interesting from a game design perspective, but it's not at all worth it. It gets old really fast, and it's more preoccupied with preventing you from hurting yourself than with actually being fun or challenging.
Down Dog isn't a game in that it doesn't have interactivity but it's great.
Obsidian
1yr ago
learn sheet music notation or just play songs until it sounds right
These are just variants on "whole word instruction for music". Take the Gary Karpinski pill, start with takadimi and scale degree syllables/movable-do solmization. Absolute cheat code for music, much in the way that phonics is the cheat code for the written word.
I hit the "subscribe" button on a couple threads and now I'm getting notifications for my own posts.
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