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Esoteric Traditionalist Aspiring Mystic

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Esoteric Traditionalist Aspiring Mystic

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Pope Honorius was actually convicted of heresy and the Church kept going.

The current papacy has certainly been a scandal and stumbling block, just as Peter was described in Matthew 16:23. For what it's worth, the death penalty has not been declared intrinsically evil, which would be a break with tradition. The pope is making a binding (on Catholics) prudential judgement, which is not considered free from error. I could advise you to read Ed Feser's blog posts on the topic, or read An Essay on the Development of Christian Doctrine by St. John Henry Newman, but it's the perception of internal inconsistencies that is the problem.

I try to maintain the same attitude towards the Pope as a medieval peasant. I mostly ignore his existence save to pray for him in the abstract. He may be the worst scoundrel or the most pious saint. As long as he doesn't issue any papal bulls that affect me I don't care. My local bishop matters more in my day to day life (and yes, bishops are often terrible too. May God preserve His Church.)

What is your relationship with God like? What was it like when you were Catholic? Did you read the Bible, pray, read the spiritual classics? Were you prepared for a desolation, or is this totally surprising to you?

Many of the government employees are military and fairly reddish, I don't think it's government employment.

All I know is back in the 2000s, people were complaining about all the Californians moving in. And the state moved from a Red, to a Purple, to a Blue state in the time following. I don't have any actual statistics on how many Californians moved to New Mexico, I just know that was a complaint people were making.

A lot of filming started to take place in New Mexico, the Albuquerque government began courting studios.

The parks are an important way to generate revenue, but they only work if new generations get the same buzz from high giving Mickey or walking through Radiator Springs. There are far less expensive alternatives and far better thrill rides at other parks.

Here you go.

I think we're about 3-5 years out from a "the Science changed, idiot" with a side helping of blaming repressive conservative gender roles for the prevalence of transition between 2014-2025. 40 years from now kids will learn how the election of Republican Donald Trump coincided with a large surge in transitions, so obviously it was a Republican phenomenon. Some internet pedants will conduct statistical analysis of congresspeople to demonstrate that the evidence is more blurry.

Dreaming Spanish is amazing, it's like Muzzy for adults. Thank you for this.

Look into co-ops in your area, identify the curriculum that interests you, and do your research. Build up the case for the specific curriculum and in-person meet ups you could use. Instead of making a fear-based, "public schools scare me," case, try to convey what about homeschooling excited you.

For example, if I get to homeschool, I will use Memoria Press and weekly music/art classes at a local coop. It's easy to look at Memoria Press' website and get excited about the curriculum. Think of how sophisticated your kid would be, reading the classics in Latin by the time they're 14!

(I'm sure the actual reality of homeschooling is not so rosy, because anything involving kids can be like pulling teeth, but this is the sales pitch.)

But also, if you show that you're willing to defer to some sort of external group as to what curriculum you are going to teach your kids, it shows that you aren't going to be a, "I know everything better than anyone else" kind of homeschool mom.

I don't think what you are saying contradicts each other. A la "The Last Psychiatrist," having incorrect beliefs and assumptions about your own skills and relationship with the world is what craters self esteem. Fewer kids testing themselves on dangerous playground equipment created a rise in anxiety disorders and people who cannot perform risk management.

No one knows what Liriope and Cephisus did, but whatever they did, it worked: he didn't even recognize his own reflection. That's a man who doesn't know himself. That's a man who never had to look at himself from the outside.

How do you make a child know himself? You surround him with mirrors. "This is what everyone else sees when you do what you do. This is who everyone thinks you are."

You cause him to be tested: this is the kind of person you are, you are good at this but not that. This other person is better than you at this, but not better than you at that. These are the limits by which you are defined. Narcissus was never allowed to meet real danger, glory, struggle, honor, success, failure; only artificial versions manipulated by his parents. He was never allowed to ask, "am I a coward? Am I a fool?" To ensure his boring longevity his parents wouldn't have wanted a definite answer in either direction.

I would expect such a person to have very low self esteem once they are grown.

Have you played Outer Wilds? I feel like it has some of the best writing for a game, and a lot of that is because of where they put the writing.

My elementary school gifted program combined 1st-5th grade into one classroom with two teachers. The child had to have a IQ score of 130+ to be assigned into the classroom. I can't really say if the age mixing was very beneficial. There's the obvious cofounder of everyone having a high IQ. It wasn't disastrous, at least. I think I had trouble learning spelling compared to my peers in normal classes, but I was ahead in reading and logic.

I bake my neighbors cookies and so far one of my neighbors has even returned the plate (along with a bottle of wine.)

Two doors down there is a single dad with two kids around the same age as mine. Across the street is a couple with three kids, slightly older. Next door on one side is a retiree who lost her cat when she moved in. On the other side is another family with small kids.

I have a play structure in my backyard which makes my house a good place to invite kids over. Excuses are easy to find if I'm willing to put in the effort.

Suburbia can be a soulless hell. I need to cross a highway to get to any commercial space - restaurant, grocery store, other kind of shop. But I know right off the bat that most of my neighbors are homeowners, have jobs that can pay for houses and cars, have kids and the responsibilities that go with that, can follow the most basic rules of the HOA (I don't like there is an HOA, but recognize it as a filter.) As a baseline they are more trustworthy than anyone I pass on the street. I am putting in the work to cultivate those relationships but I believe it is worthwhile.

I remember growing up in suburbia, I rode my bike in the neighborhood with the other kids. I would go to other kids' homes and knock on their front door and ask, "Is Heather home?" I would kick the ball in my backyard over the fence and have to go to the street one over and knock on a stranger's door and ask if I could retrieve my ball. My parent's mostly watched me through the kitchen window - I had a great deal of independence even by the time I was five years old.

My mom met with friends almost every day, either at a McDonalds with a play place, a park, or someone's home.

The change, as far as I perceive it, happened around 9/11. Same neighborhood, same kids, same families, but people stopped visiting as much. I wasn't allowed to go out by myself as much. A layer of optimism was stripped away.

I guess that's why I think it is mostly an attitude thing, not anything inherent to the suburbs. And why I stubbornly believe I can create a community if I keep pressing my neighbors to interact with me.

Look at all the Sherlocks, next someone is going to point out my flair is pink and I interjected my emotional state in most paragraphs.

Look into a Mother's Helper - someone in middle school who is interested in small children but not old enough to babysit on their own. They can play with younger kids while your wife cleans up or sits. It can be a pretty affordable arrangement.

On the converse of the WFH thoughts - I have found WFH + Au Pair to be a very good combination. I'm able to nurse a baby while taking a meeting on my phone while the Au Pair plays with the older bunch. When things are quiet I can practice Hooked on Phonics with the kids. I'm there to handle disturbances, illnesses, etc. I have a good idea of how the kids are doing any given day, unlike at preschool which was like a black box to me. But if I need a day of focus I can get it.

I'm a woman. People glared because I cursed in front of their small children.

Yeah, I don't know why she thought the two month old would be interested in listening to her read... I think she has forgotten most of what it is like to have small kids. That thought gives me weird feelings. On the one hand, I know that one day most of my kids will be able to feed themselves breakfast and lunch, take their own baths, entertain themselves, and my role as a parent will be very different. I look forward to the role changing.

On the other hand, I want to be there for my kids when they have kids. If I forget what it's like, I will not be able to help as much. I'm already disappointed in Future Me's inevitable failure.

This was just the example that was easiest to convey. The most enraging thing was on a zoo trip. The zoo has a ski-lift-like ride where you can get a better view of the animals. My oldest, A, and second oldest, C, were tall enough to ride, but short enough that they needed a riding partner. My husband took C first, they got on the lift without a problem. I stayed with the younger two and the strollers.

My mom took A. While waiting for the chair lift to come up behind them, my mom kept trying to get A to look at me, yelling at me to take a photo, trying to get A to smile. The chair came behind them, my Mom sat on it easily, kept looking over my way trying to get me to photograph her. My daughter did not sit on the chair easily and was pushed forward. I kept shouting, "A! A!" helplessly behind three layers of steel gates and a long line. A ride attendant caught up and got my daughter on.

I was furious, muttered, "Stupid fucking woman cares more about photos than the life of her grandkid!" Mothers with young children heard me and glared. I was anxious, worried my daughter would fall off, pacing around until finally they came back around.

My mom visited my family recently and kept commenting on how busy I was, while I ran around trying to take care of my four kids (one a infant) while on maternity leave. She spent most of the time on the couch or "cleaning up" (really, messing up the careful system we have to make sure everything gets cleaned up.) She spent almost no time with the kids, let alone in a way that would have taken them off my hands. She was mostly determined to take posed photos of the kids, culminating a very staged attempt at getting a video of her reading a book to all the kids, keeping two of them up past their bed times. I don't think she learned anything from the experience, though the video is hard to watch with all the crying from the younger two.

I had an Au Pair, but she left the weekend before my mom showed up. It was a month early, and we would then have a gap between Au Pairs, but we didn't question her decision to leave too much. A week before she left, the Au Pair started asking me about my mom's visit. It turns out she had been under the impression that my Mom was coming over to take care of my kids, because that's what happened in her country when a new baby was born. I could only laugh.

My mom had me when she was 33. She has struggled with her weight since bearing kids and has low energy, was diagnosed with something wrong with her thyroid at some point. Playing with the kids would be hard for her on a physical level. I don't think she even has the strength to carry the 2 year old.

There are a lot of factors in lower fertility. Increased maternal age has effects for multiple generations, overall decline of health in the older population means less help to the next generation of mothers.

"But you said you are engaging in prayer, which is the offense," the officer responded.

"Silent prayer," she responded.

"No, but you were still engaging in prayer," he said. "It is an offense,"


If dairy works well for you, you can try to get more calories from heavy cream? Way cheaper than beef and might be easier on social gatherings (show up with tea filled with 1/3 cup of cream, that's a full meal and you probably won't look too weird compared to pulling out a chunk of meat.)

Rosacea is not acne, and it will not be treated with the same things as acne. It sounds like at least type 3. Antibiotics are the most common prescription for Rosacea, but topical Ivermectin is the 'it' new thing. There are new developments every year and it might be worth going back to a dermatologist or at the least go through something like https://www.dermatica.com/.

The problem doesn't lie in food (like an allergy), the problem lies in your gut biome. Can you try drinking homemade milk kefir and see if that's a trigger? You can make it with A2 milk, goat milk, any kind of fancy milk to see if you can tolerate it. If you can, after a few months you might find that you're able to tolerate a wider range of food (but probably not everything.)

Is there any way to change your domain of responsibility so that if you perform your responsibilities at your desired cadence it won't negatively affect your wife?

For example, if the dishes are on the counter and it's your job to do them but its her job to cook, then she might feel frustrated that the surfaces she'd use to chop, mix, prepare are not clean. If you swap jobs she can clean the dishes at a rate acceptable to her, and you would cook at a time acceptable to you. Or she can do both cooking and dishes because there's synergy (unload the dishwasher while something heats up, wipe stuff down as they are used and load the dishwasher, etc.)

In exchange, you can take over anything that is more routine, set on a schedule. You can set specific times for you to do mopping, sweeping, laundry, cleaning toilets, cleaning out the refrigerator, etc. If she knows that you always do X at a specific time, she might be able to wait for it instead of just deciding to do it herself.

Have you spoken with a dermatologist in person? Could you have rosacea?

He says he just wanted to stay on the character creation screen and have her make a character. Turns out it's not a Barbie dress up game!

My husband started up Baldur's Gate 3 with my five year old on the chair next to him, and now no one in my house has slept in 48 hours. She keeps running in and out of our bedroom screaming about monsters and worms going into eyes. The baby wakes up and starts crying. I can't safely have both her and the baby in the bed at the same time. I hate this game with a burning fire and I haven't even played it yet.

I wanted to be an Imagineer for the Disney Parks. And I would have gotten away with it too if it wasn't for those meddling kids MAE2030-Dynamics! (and I took a cryptography class as an elective that I ended up liking more.)