WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
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WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
I mean, yes. But also, that requires a lower time preference than most narcissist are capable of. They don't want to give up attention now for more attention later. They want all the attention, right now, all the time. And especially their exact favorite type of attention, not a different type that's better in some ways and worse in others.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Maybe.
Alternately, Transhausen by Proxy.
All things under the sun are possible, even horrible things that make you weep at the tragedy of it.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
I think they have a problem with narcissism.
Most women go through their lives being the center of attention. Women Are Wonderful, and most relationships revolve around them and whatever it takes to keep them happy. After all, it's easy for them to replace the men in their lives who fail to live up to their standards.
To a point.
Having a kid takes all the attention they were getting, all the effort people were putting into keeping them happy, and steals it away from them. Now the kid is getting it. There is no comparison to being a man and becoming a father, because nobody gives a fuck about men in the first place. Supposedly becoming a dad is (used to be?) good for your career because people are (or were?) more generous with raises for a family man.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Thanks, I hate it.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Let me put it like this.
I would not be against much maligned literacy test to register to vote. I wouldn't be against banning people on SSRIs from voting. I don't understand why felons ever started getting their rights to vote back, when the last thing we need is a felon voting block, somehow convincing politicians to make their crimes legal or at least unpunishable. I think it might be a worthy experiment to whittle away at universal suffrage "disparate outcomes" be damned.
Sometimes I think of the origin story of sorts for the Slavs. Mostly because Dan Carlin did a podcast on vikings in the east, and then immediately after I heard that Putin summarized largely the same history in his interview with Tucker Carlson. And that origin story, as written by the victors, is that the Slavs were so incapable of ruling themselves, they invited some viking nobles who were much better at ruling down to rule over them. The relentless and short sighted tribal strife largely calmed down, some measure of relative peace and prosperity returned to the region.
Now on the face of it, that sounds like a preposterous story obviously written by the victors. Are we honestly supposed to believe that a people requested from foreign stock a new ruling class? That it's even possible for them to have the self awareness required to realize, as a people, they are temperamentally incapable of governing themselves? It's probably just a story, a myth even. But sometimes I think about it wondering, what if?
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Yeah, Ubuntu was going to be my first choice because it seems so ubiquitous and stuff like Steam claims to only support Ubuntu. But a friend of me talked me out of it because Ubuntu began gathering telemetry or something? And a lot of the places I used to see evangelizing Ubuntu shifted to Mint?
I donno man. I'm an outsider looking in.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
What we can do is work with them, educate them on how to live a better life, and love them.
This has been the political project of the last 50 years, and it's only resulted in the inmates running the asylum.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Why not both? Look, I haven't taken a chemistry class in 20+ years. But by way of a possibly flawed analogy, you can have incredibly stable molecules that get pried apart in the correct solution. Maybe all it takes is water.
No relationship is perfect or without strife. Culture can encourage people to kill their ego and sacrifice to work things out, or it can encourage them to be purely ego driven and destroy their relationships in pursuit of limitless self actualization.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
A cousin at a family function, a high school acquaintance on Facebook, a former student dropping by my office; all rolling in the deep, and every time a Bayesian reckoning lands me on "Leftism is both a cause and effect of acute mental illness" I roll to disbelieve, because I know it can't possibly be that simple--can it?
And much like HBD, an obvious truth gets dismissed because to believe it leads to only a single brutal conclusion. A group of people that you want to enjoy full human rights and political autonomy because that's what we've decided is the bedrock of being a good person, must be marginalized and contained at worst, eliminated at best. Or vice versa? Because it's impossible to share a Republic or a Democracy with a power faction that are literal raving lunatics and/or pants on head retarded.
I have so much whiplash from the 90's. The promises implicitly made to me by the culture (in the absence of parental guidance), the beliefs I took on by osmosis, and the horrifying hellscape of a nation I now live in 30 years later which seems the ultimate fruit of those promises.
Like, as a trivial example. There was a humor site called Pointless Waste of Time, that eventually got rolled into Cracked.com and had all it's best articles memory holed, even from archive.org. There was an article where this guy was trying to catch up with his highschool friends maybe 10 years later. I viewed this author as my peer, just a few years ahead of me. He liked video games, shock humor, and was a sneering atheist who never wanted kids. Over the course of catching up with a bunch of his friends, they'd all changed. He alone remained basically as he had been in highschool. I don't recall the precise score, but something like 2 of his friends overdosed and 5 had gotten married, had kids and found Jesus. He joked that he "lost" more friends to God than to drugs. I laughed. What fucking losers deciding to go to church with your family if you'd made it through your childhood not doing so.
So anyways, I got married, had kids, and now we go to church as a family. I can scarcely imagine how miserable I'd be had I bitterly clung to some version of myself I thought was "cool" in 1998. What sort of neuroses I'd develop to cope with the objectively lack of meaning, stability or community I'd be adrift in. The idea that "being a father cost me my identity" sounds literally insane to me, any more than not being a sneering 90's teenage atheist anymore "cost me my identity". Maybe 90's teenage me wouldn't understand the life 2020's middle age me lives. I don't care.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
The fact that I'm a Linux newb and it was supposed to be the most user friendly. I don't think I see myself distro hopping either, I just want something that works, and it does. But who knows, maybe I'll find myself with more time than sense and going down rabbit holes.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Man... sometimes it feels like I hit bitcoin at just the right time. It was worth enough to make me take it seriously, it was after Mt Gox so lessons from that were in the zeitgeist, and I was zealous enough to never sell and keep DCAing for almost 10 years. Some people have done better buying it earlier and selling the tops and buying the bottoms. Some people have done a lot worse panic selling the bottoms. All in all I can't complain.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
I want so badly to believe in Intel, but it just keeps getting worse. Sorry you got burned.
I'm still happy as a clam with my 5800X3D and an RTX 4070S to go with it. But I'm throwing $50 a month into a "New Computer" fund whenever I decide it's finally time to upgrade. Who knows when that'll be. Since switching to Linux Mint things generally seem much snappier. I know it boots it like 10 seconds versus the 60+ Windows 10 takes these days. Really makes you think how much of that feeling of "Ugh, my computer has gotten slow" is just Windows cruft. Linux Mint feels as fast as the day I first built this thing (when it was a Ryzen 3700X and an RTX 2070S) and was blown away at how much faster a NVMe drive was to boot from.
Stupid planned obsolescence.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Man, where was I? Making the stretchers for my chairs over again I think?
I had a pretty productive week then I guess. Made the stretchers to the proper length this time. Doing the tenons at an angle was new for me. Starts off the same as any others, but then I had to hand cut the last bits. Fit perfect in the final product this time. The final parts I had to make were the seat bottoms. I got the template done and then routed out the panels I'd glue up last month to shape. Looks fantastic in place. Unfortunately the panels weren't wide enough to give the seats the kind of flourish I would have liked, but they do taper slightly towards the back and round slightly around the front legs.
I decided to tempt fate some, and give the chairs a bit more of a backwards tilt, just 3/4" off the back legs. Adds roughly 2.5 degrees to the tilt of the chair and IMHO made it way more comfortable. I wish this had been built into my template, but I wasn't using CAD software or anything, so I had to figure it out after I had a physical object in my hands. Sadly the best way to cut them was by hand because they were curved and I didn't have a good reference plane to throw it on my tablesaw or miter saw. Also I felt like it would go wrong slower with a handsaw. I think I cut them mostly even. Nothing the felt pads I'm putting on the bottom, or a hand plane and a shooting board worst case, can't fix.
I'm in the end stages of this project. Some light edge profiling, filling in knots and voids with sawdust and glue, sanding, finishing and then final assembly. Probably still going to take me a few more weeks to get through all that. I've decided to finish the parts separately and then assemble them. I don't think having a little shellac around the mortises will weaken them too badly. After all the slot and the tenon are doing most of the work, not the end grain of the shoulder being glued to the work piece. Plus I've just had better luck get a consistent finish when I do smaller parts without inside corners, and then assemble it
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
That sounds terrifying. I'm glad your son fully recovered.
Doctors working with outdated information is the most frustrating part. We're seeing a local doctor who's kept abreast of the changes, largely due to so many of her patients having tick born diseases in recent years. My daughter's school does a pretty good job too because several kids there have AGS, including kids of the staff. It's getting kind of out of control in my area if "I never knew anyone who had this and now I'm encountering it everywhere I go" is any measure.
It depresses us to no end the fact that the outdoors feels so threatening now. We're trying to keep up the love of nature too with the hiking and camping. But then our daughter gets another tick and my wife spends a week contemplating selling everything, moving to a concrete jungle, and getting rid of the dog in case she tracks ticks in too.
Supposedly the AGS gets better after a few years, but the big if is that you have to not get bit by more ticks. That's proving incredibly difficult since we've found 2 more on our daughter just from the yard (or the dog) this spring.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Man... I had so many dreams of giving my child the same childhood I had. Biking 15 miles to the nearest strip mall with my sister, playing in the woods all day, ranging through countless back yards. Once I found this weird heavily vandalized abandoned cabin in the middle of nowhere. My parents never cared, and it all seemed totally normal in the 90's.
Unfortunately, times have changed. Putting aside the sociological factors, apparently ticks in my area are up 4000% since a decade ago, and my daughter has already caught Lyme Disease and Alpha Gal Syndrome. Any tick bite she gets could make her AGS symptoms worse, and causes my wife to have a week long panic attack. I didn't appreciate how much the world had changed in that regard, and how much worse just playing in the fucking woods was.
Also, I swear to god if the rumors that Lyme Disease and AGS escaped from a bioweapons lab are true you may very well see me on the news.
That said we try our best. Lots of tick spray, twice daily tick checks, tick treatments for the yard. Breaks my heart that she can't play in the woods and the creek I bought. Virtually every time anybody goes into them they come out with 2-5 ticks, so that's not even a hypothetical problem.
That said she fucking loved the 2 acres of yard we do have. Climbs the shit out of trees, plays with the chickens, has her own garden with her mother. She loves to pick herbs and leafy greens to add to her fresh eggs in the morning. Skips around the yard in her night gown saying good morning to the chickens. Makes my heart swell.
Her peers... well... I donno man. A friend of mine has a kid about her age, a boy, tall as fuck. He spends an hour on a tablet at his preschool to get him ready for the tablet as a learning device in elementary. Cause I guess that's what public schools do now? He can't ride a bike, climb a tree, he still has an awkward toddler gait despite being 5, and still has very soft speech. I'm reading Lord of the Rings to my daughter, he's seen all the movies along with Star Wars, The Hobbit, and countless other shows.
My wife and I constantly discuss, is our daughter just "advanced" or have we just not hobbled her with screentime and being locked in a townhouse? We may never know, but the differences we notice are stark.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
I mean, I still just think that's bullshit, even with all the caveats? People were getting away with a literal "free money" glitch by buying liens and then repossessing properties for their full value, as opposed to collecting the debt they may have bought for pennies on the dollar, and then paying out the excess of the sale as should have been legally required all along. I'm indifferent on reversing the lien or foreclosure or any of that. Someone "legally" stole almost half a million dollars in equity from these brothers, regardless of how negligent they were. They should be owed the difference between the value of the home and the debt the estate owed, period, no questions asked.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
The thing that gets me about all this, is that it took a Supreme Court Case to tell the government "No, you can't steal a half million dollar piece of property from someone to satisfy a debt 1/10th of that." And then the shear fucking balls for the government to turn around and go "Ok, well, now we know that... but it doesn't help you"
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
How about you give me a list of publications that would count to you, and how many examples you require.
Maybe. Maybe not. Virtually every long form article I read I find out, sometimes years later, was a blatant lie. Or not? Sometime I never really find out.
Case in point, and something that never really leaves my mind. To this day I still don't know if this article in Bloomberg about China using their manufacturing to put backdoors in nearly every electronic device made there is true. It reads like it has tons of companies, if not on record, than with dozens of employees in them speaking of their experience in confidence. They appear to outline the actions numerous manufacturer's have taken to limit or mitigate this threat vector because they've been burned by it.
And yet in aftermath of that article, big splash though it made, virtually every entity named in it denied everything in it. I still have no clue if any of it was true, or they caved to pressure from China. I never heard of any real follow up reporting. And so I find myself almost less informed than if I'd read nothing at all. I have knowledge debt.
Edit: I'm going to double dip on this one actually.
Second example. Bitcoin. I tried for years to educate myself on bitcoin. It seemed interesting. Not one single news article about it told me anything. I was still reading Ars Technica back then, and even their "technical" reporting was lacking in any technical details and just came back to the same conclusion. Bitcoin is a scam. I remember this article in particular, which continues on that theme of seeming to impart negative knowledge. Like it's basically a blog of them setting up and running a bitcoin miner, but their stream of consciousness confusion about every step leaves you with an experience of a very unreliable narrator. And there is zero information what so ever about how any of it works beyond the most superficial ("it calculates hashes!")
Some time around 2017 I did my own research, ignoring everything "respectable" publishers were saying about bitcoin. I'm greatful every day since that I did, because I took literal decades off my savings goals by simply DCAing into bitcoin every month for 8 years. Even today the "respectable long form" articles about Bitcoin are probably 70-90% irrelevant smearing, ignorant half truths or malicious lies.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
In an ideal world, these kinds of serious missteps could lead to on the ground reporting being more valued. Put boots on the actual place, talk to actual people. It was already a problem that most "news" is just regurgitating press statements or "reaction" based takes like fake cable news style round table debates or monologing about what you should think about the press release. That was already pretty useless, and people have lamented for over a decade about the death of original reporting.
Shit, one of the reasons I first started watching Tim Pool was that he actually went places and did some original reporting. But that didn't cover the bills and instead he turned into a slop-tuber.
On the one hand I'd like to believe that AI makes this problem so much worse on the ground reporting comes back. On the other hand, even as I've thought more about this post as I write it...how much worse really does AI make the current press release/official lies information environment? More chaotic perhaps. But we're already almost a decade into the MSM's Fine People hoax and it still gets pushed and believed. I find it hard to make a distinction between major political institutions blatantly lying, and an LLM hallucinating information on the receiving end.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Well, more problems on my chairs.
Some fucking how I cut the stretchers an inch short. Which required me to buy more walnut. Good news, the lumber yard was having a memorial day cook out, and I got to stuff myself with free cheeseburgers before I made my purchase.
So anyways, I got the stretchers remade to the proper length this time. Cut the angled tenons in them which was new for me. Added another mortising guide to my leg making jig to put the mortises for them into the back legs. Things are back on track. I have 6 more mortises to clean up by hand, and after that all the mortises and tenons are done.
Next up are the seats which I think I'll do with a template again. Then comes sanding, finishing and assembly.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Or shameless hating. Apparently shoeOnHead married and had a kid with a hater who slid into her DMs.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Maybe.
Then again, the stereotype of that happening is a man rapidly approaching middle age who's had little luck up to this point finds himself in a situationship with a woman who's had her fun already and has run out of options. One thing leads to another, she decides "He'll do I guess" and they live happily ever after in constant seething resentment. Her because he wasn't who she wanted to end up "stuck" with, and him because this lady treats him like something that got stuck to her shoe and constantly humiliates him in public with stories of the sexcapades she used to have in her 20's. But not with him. Eww. She doesn't do those things anymore.
Shit, I ran into five of those couples at a school function last week. Putting aside the insane inappropriateness of bringing up your 20's sexcapades not just in mixed company, in front of your husband, but with your fucking kids not 10 feet away on the jungle gym.
Needless to say, yeah, people can eat shit. People can draw straws lost at sea. But most would prefer not to find themselves in situations where those are there only options.
WhiningCoil
Ghost of Quokka's Future
4mo ago
Maybe, but on a long enough timeline, and with enough "therapy", a 20 year old woman with "anxiety" becomes a 40 year old woman with BPD and a dissociative disorder. Seen it happen numerous times. From my vantage point the safest thing for a young man is reject any woman enmeshed with therapy culture.
I would not be shocked to see a study with a dataset supporting that exorcism is a better mental health intervention than therapy.
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