durdenhobbes
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durdenhobbes
10mo ago
I find myself in a weird position where I don't like to be alone for very long. I can't sit at home all day, and need to be around people fairly regularly. But once I'm around people and someone starts a conversation with me, I immediately can't wait for that conversation to end, even if it's interesting. I want to want to talk, but it just feels off and I never seem to know what to say.
The only workaround I've ever found to this is alcohol, which makes conversation entirely enjoyable, frictionless, and engaging, but it comes with obvious health downsides.
Are there any healthy remedies to make sociability not feel like awkward work?
durdenhobbes
10mo ago
As an aside, I've often felt it was a blatant smear that Republicans got tagged as the "racist" party (with increasing fervor) in recent years, when the supposed "most racist" states in the South were reliably Democratic during the eras of exponentially-greater blatant racism. I've often heard the defense of "oh well the parties flipped", but I've never been able to square that argument with obvious examples like Robert Byrd being a Democratic senator a mere 13 years ago, or things like Biden's comments in the 70's about a "racial jungle".
I'm like "okay, if the parties flipped, then when did they flip?". Because when it comes to Biden (and countless others, I'm certain), they clearly haven't flipped yet.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
That's not even a criticism, though. That's just shock-gallows humor. Not to mention, people get cancelled for saying a whole lot less than "I think it's funny when they die" when it comes to actually-favored groups.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
That's a rather cynical way of viewing things, but you do you. So long as you can be sure not to consider any other perspectives, and most importantly to "steer clear of them in 'in real life' interactions". Something, something, "ATM machine".
durdenhobbes
9mo ago
Europe is much more white than the US and is also much more ethno-nationalist than the US
I'd like to see some backing data to support this.
durdenhobbes
10mo ago
The critial difference, of course being, is that if I choose to refer to my step-mom simply as "mom" (and vice versa), that's a relational identifier that the two of us have chosen to engage in based on mutual trust/love/history/etc.
No such consensual agreement exists between myself and some dude in a dress who tries to get me fired if I don't refer to him as "ma'am".
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
I don't have much to say to your response, other than to say that it strikes me as shockingly condescending and naive. Hopefully life experience will help you grow out of the arrogant perspective you seem to have adopted.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
Do you think you'd get fired if you wrote "Russians should all be deported"? What about "The Swiss should all be deported"?
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
The most shocking thing I found in that table is that there are countries that have differing retirement ages for men versus women.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
I may have missed a valid explanation somewhere along the line, but how are we defining "witches", exactly?
durdenhobbes
22d ago
Agreed. I'm not sure I have the writing skills to make a top-level post, but if I did, I'd be lucky to have even a single issue on which I was both articulate and interesting enough to make multiple posts on the topic. I guess that would make me a single issue poster (which there is no discernible rule against).
I'm also highly antipathetic toward governance/justice/moderation being levied based on identity. Judgment, in this and in every case, should be on the merits of the argument, not because of who posted it. Either the ball was in bounds or out of bounds; making that call shouldn't depend on whether Tom Brady or Todd Marinovich threw it. If it does, then we're playing a rigged sport here.
durdenhobbes
6mo ago
Zeiss Victory SF 10x42
Maybe it's just because I'm an enthusiast in photography and sport shooting, with their extremely pricey optics, that I expected these to be more than $3k.
durdenhobbes
8mo ago
A recent interaction I had with an 80-something woman had me thinking about this very thing. I've been trying to come up with some sort of non-profit model that could work toward solving this problem.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
And the latter are regularly censored on matters of minor corruption in ways the former is rigorously guarded against.
NPR completely and explicitly buried a story about major corruption from a presidential candidate and his son's overseas business dealings, in order to hand that preferred candidate the election. I'd challenge to to find a more-impactful example of corruption censorship from any other news media in world history.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
Um, America is not the only country that contains white Christian men.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
Would it be acceptable for an athlete who opposed some war to refuse to wear a camo jersey?
Absolutely, and Muhammad Ali is hailed a hero for refusing to fight in Vietnam.
To answer your first statement: absolutely! No one in my generation asked for this, no one in my circle wants it, and I think it should be the one burned to the ground. It’s pure societal poison.
As for men (or women) who treat their spouses in a "pitch-black evil" way, we've always had means of dealing with that, outside a parasitical family court machine. A strong family is a good start, for example. Something that the current M.O. has made scarce.
durdenhobbes
3mo ago
Reade appears to be an actual Russian asset.
While I haven't kept up with this story in extreme detail, this is the first I've heard of this accusation. What makes that so apparent?
durdenhobbes
10mo ago
Any suggestions? I joined a climbing gym for a bit, but never got real into it. Seems like pickleball is all the rage these days... but it's kinda taken on that "Crossfit is all I talk about" vibe in my circles.
durdenhobbes
10mo ago
So Reagan was a Democrat? And where does this leave Biden/Feinstein/any other longtime politician?
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
I think it’s highly relevant to consider which nationalities/ethnicities you can safely criticize versus which ones you can’t, and why. Does this require further explanation?
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
I think that's a rather dated heuristic. In many urban centers, women outearn men.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
Kinda makes you wonder about the “equality” of Title IX, then.
durdenhobbes
1yr ago
You don't consider the economy a plausible reason to motivate someone's political leanings? That defies belief.
This is the part that leaves me flabbergasted. I've seen close friends have their lives left in utter shambles after being cheated on and left by a wife who decided that he was nothing more than a piggybank. Men who were allowed only a pittance of time with their children, despite having no criminal record/history of abuse/etc. That the modern, overpowered family court allows women to destroy the lives of decent men for absolutely no reason is a stain on our society, and will undoubtedly have more severe ramifications as future generations grow up saying "yeah there's no way I'm risking my life by getting married and ending up in a financial/emotional/spiritual dumpster like my dad".
It makes me physically angry sometimes that so much societal and conversational capital is spent on the most trivial "microaggressions" that supposedly-marginalized communities experience, yet massive legal aggressions with the demonstrated effect of driving men to suicide are only spoken of in hushed tones in the dark recesses of the internet.
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