sleepyegg
4d ago
I think Japan has actually really good service for normal people stuff. Like restaurants and hotels. What countries are better?
sleepyegg
5d ago
Damn, didn't know you were talking about the abuser themselves. Some things just can't be forgiven IMO and there's no point maintaining the relationship especially with the enablers too. Thought the abuse was from an unrelated party kind of situation, not that it would make it much better.
sleepyegg
6d ago
Not to say that being molested isn't traumatic, but elderly don't know how to help process the abuse if they didn't help when they were younger and more mentally capable. It's a past event which can't be un-done, and bringing it up can retraumatize people and stress out the old people who mostly want to believe everything is fine and dandy out of mental self-preservation before they die.
Tire pressure is a quick easy fix though, and within some old guy's expertise. He can't help with the abuse though, that's probably closer to a car transmission full rebuild.
A lot of people don't do emotional and feelings talks, important as they are. It can be due to a lack of cultivated social skills, generational differences, or just apathy. But asking about the 'dry' bullshit is easier and within the basic parental instincts and ability of most people, much of my own elder family included. I don't think it's fair to criticize old people for not doing helpful things that are outside of their ability. They do what they can, and I'm glad for their effort even if it falls short compared to other old people.
Basically, some people are incapable of higher-level talks, and no amount of education or effort is going to change that, especially in old age.
If you haven't tried the Xpiratez mod for original XCOM, you should take a look at it. I've always played Ironman on the second easiest difficulty on Xpiratez and it still destroys me over 3-4 long campaigns, as in in-game years.
https://www.moddb.com/mods/x-piratez
More options
Context Copy link