somethingsomething
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somethingsomething
2mo ago
Trying to lose a few pounds eating slightly less and exercising slightly more. Not really seeing progress so far but at least I'm no longer gaining weight. Thinking about buying a condo with a gym in the building just to make things more convenient.
somethingsomething
4mo ago
When I had friends I was attractive enough and made it clear I was painfully single. Still had to fight tooth and nail for every date I've gotten unfortunately.
somethingsomething
5mo ago
I think there are degrees but yeah that's essentially true. I'm in a better place now, definitely.
somethingsomething
5mo ago
I was in a very low mental place, but was doing a lot better materially than them so I felt unworthy to ask for help, and otherwise didn't feel like I could be my real self around them. It was kind of a silent cry for help, but you need fairly pushy friends for going unresponsive to be productive in that way, otherwise they'll be fine just moving on.
somethingsomething
5mo ago
At some point work may not be so exciting anymore and you may have like 50+ years of your life to putter around. Basically where I am as I don't have any real friends currently after I kind of stopped talking to everyone.
somethingsomething
5mo ago
Man I wish having friends ever led to a date.
somethingsomething
5mo ago
I felt that way with "Joker" in 2019
somethingsomething
7mo ago
Since no one has defended jazz yet, I will. There is signalling in jazz and perhaps moreso than the average music genre, but structurally it tends to stay inside the lines, it just has high level of potential complexity that does take legitimate skill to navigate. But listening to those complex songs with the technical improvisation can be extremely viscerally pleasurable and spiritual. You may have to get stoned. I got stoned with a young friend I made and played him Coltraine's A Love Supreme and afterward he was excitedly exclaiming "I get jazz! I get jazz!" and became a permanent fan. There's a passage about getting stoned and listening to jazz in the beginning of "Invisible Man" as well that was one of the best parts of that book.
Anyway I think progressive rock is the genre more like post modernism, which plays with structure in more experimental ways.
somethingsomething
9mo ago
bite into it to get the first peel going is my barbarian-esque way of doing it.
somethingsomething
9mo ago
This thread inspired me to get some oranges which are far better imo. Yes they are messy, it's best to eat them over the sink or something. But man the juicy orange meat, whatever it is, is so so good, next level when compared to the more ordinary apple experience.
somethingsomething
9mo ago
Do you know of a good resource for a list of niche manga you'd consider good? That's something I've never explored but would probably enjoy.
I resonate with this and a lot of the replies, being someone who has kind of gone in and out of the trauma narrative. I would characterize the problem we have in front of us as not having a great paradigm for getting people through generations of "my parents are emotionally-distant, lying bullies with/without an addiction problem" combined with "I am emotionally distant, I have to lie/bully others when they say things that confront my weaknesses, and I may/may not have an addiction problem too." I think part of the story is that as life has become more comfortable, these aspects in people are less likely to be aggravated by traumatic external events, and it doesn't seem unreasonable that this could result in people sort of settling into emotionally-distant lives kind of devoid of color, not knowing what they're missing, but raising kids who do feel something missing, finding the trauma narrative, which is directionally true in a sense of putting blame on parents depriving them of something.
And the trauma narrative is seductive via providing victimhood, because these kids are basically looking for relief and via CBT etc. are being told that actually you need to opposite, you need to be more resilient and deal with this as part of life. I think making stoicism attractive is something masculine men and old been-through-hell lady-boss women are better at doing, but those types are basically absent from education and therapy roles in lieu of the "sensitive" types who I feel like subconsciously get into these roles because it benefits the weak-minded to kind of be able to sap energy from children via malformed projections of "concern" and "compassion" that are more like a form of soma than something that would help the kid.
Which is all to say I do think it's a real problem and when people say they are traumatized there is something to be taken seriously there, even if you don't necessarily want to validate their view of it.
I managed to lose 10 pounds eating less and working out ever so slightly more. Going for 10 more, turns out I may not need the peptides after all.
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