sonya
1yr ago
having used all of these methods, IMO the bidet is the clear winner. it's not even close
sonya
1yr ago
He blogged about it, naturally. Ctrl+F "divorce" for the relevant bits. Here's one:
My wife filed for divorce in the spring, but you should know that I believe she did the right thing, ultimately, because continuing in this ferocious pain after ten years was destroying both of us. It is a relatively amicable split, one that even our priests had suggested was finally the right thing. But even relatively amicable splits are terrible, and I beg your prayers for us all.
There may be other divorce-relevant posts in his archive but since I'm not a regular reader of Dreher, I don't recall.
sonya
1yr ago
Persian Fire, about Darius and Xerxes' attempts to conquer Greece. Very fun read, reminds me a bit of Carthage Must Be Destroyed (which I also enjoyed). I must admit, I don't retain a lot of the back-and-forth minutia, but nonetheless the texture of these ancient civilizations is engrossing. Our civilizational forebears lived in a much more brutal, visceral world than we do, coping with much starker material limitations. Yet at the same time, the more things change, the more they stay the same — humans gonna human!
sonya
1yr ago
Second paragraph would work just as well without quotations — you can simply leave them out.
sonya
1yr ago
Nerd-sniped: You don't need to tumble Monero, that's the whole point! Tumbling is built in.
sonya
1yr ago
Advice from former avid vaper: Just quit, it's easier than moderating. Also cheaper!
sonya
1yr ago
I've been there, it's frustrating. I didn't figure out any "one weird trick" personally, I just gradually got better at forcing myself to buckle down. I still procrastinate a lot but I do also get done what I need to get done. Shorter-term deadlines where I'm accountable to a colleague are helpful. If someone is relying on me to do X at N time, I'm much more motivated than if it's a "finish this eventually" situation.
This service is often recommended, probably worth a try: https://www.focusmate.com/
sonya
1yr ago
Conversation is for asking people questions about themselves, not for telling people stuff. Do way, way more of the former and the latter will happen naturally in the appropriate amount (which is minimal).
sonya
1yr ago
In some ways it's a higher lift to jump through the bureaucratic hoops to get the state to sanction your death, in some ways it's a higher to off yourself personally. But you don't have a principal-agent problem if you're the one killing yourself. Besides, that option can't be legislated away. Not sure how I'd feel if it could.
sonya
1yr ago
"X genuinely believes media and (liberal) political elites harbor a large number of pedophiles who are trafficking children."
Heck, I'm pretty close to believing that, if you take out "liberal" and "large."
sonya
1yr ago
it's seen the same way as cutting, or anorexia nowadays.
These are still massive deals, you're just not a teenager anymore. I might be wrong but I'd even guess there's more of both now that social media has subsumed much of teenage socializing.
sonya
1yr ago
Institute for Justice, which is on a crusade against stupid occupational licensing requirements.
sonya
1yr ago
Corgiville Fair is a treasure!
sonya
1yr ago
The Crimean War: A History by Orlando Figes — good so far but it also puts me to sleep quickly so progress is slow. I'm still in the "context for the conflict" beginning section.
sonya
1yr ago
Your English is actually quite decent, there are many native speakers who write worse than you. Some of them significantly worse. You could 100% pass for a native speaker online if you didn't mention that you're not.
sonya
1yr ago
I ponied up for a SimpleHuman trash can — though not an automated one — which felt outrageously expensive at like $150 but the mess-limiting design and build quality turned out to be soooooo worth it. I assume the automatic-lid cans are also good.
sonya
1yr ago
I've come to view the physical pain of suicide as a feature rather than a bug due to its deterrent effect. You have to really, really want it, and I think that's a good thing. But ODing on fentanyl seems... well, not fun, but better than most other methods.
sonya
1yr ago
The problem isn't biting, it's biting hard when the target is inappropriate. You want to train a soft mouth. Yelp and act injured / upset whenever she bites hard enough to hurt you.
sonya
1yr ago
I think the paradigm you're looking for is "productized services." Here is a blog post about this concept (ignore all the calls to action, this guy sells SEO stuff but the blog posts are generally decent).
sonya
1yr ago
On a Daphne Du Maurier kick right now, reading her short story collection The Breaking Point after deeply enjoying The Scapegoat.
Mine is more of a newsletter with a website — but I suppose most are these days. Here it is: https://www.sonyasupposedly.com/
I like the hosting platform Ghost a lot, but Substack is probably better if you don't have an established audience yet.
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