stuckinbathroom
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stuckinbathroom
1d ago
Far be it from me to pass for an idpol-progressive under ITT conditions, but if I had to steel-man the progressive position here, I would say that disparate impact that harms an oppressed group is sufficient to define an act as racist (intention notwithstanding, as you say). Actions to redress oppression, to equalize the conditions of oppressor and oppressed are definitionally not racist; “when you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression” and all that.
stuckinbathroom
3d ago
because apparently the Karen National Army and the Karen National Liberation Army don't get along.
Did one of them demand to speak to the manager of the other? Or is this more of a Judean People’s Front vs. People’s Front of Judea type of feud?
stuckinbathroom
3d ago
G’day, mate!
stuckinbathroom
9d ago
It's fallen out of favour here now, but in my own town there used to be people going out on the harbour or out to the beaches when the tide went out so they could gather mussels etc. for sale.
Molly Malone?
stuckinbathroom
10d ago
Alas, a Dunkin’ lover can dream
stuckinbathroom
11d ago
Breaking news: Uri Berliner has since resigned. I have to assume that "resigned" here is the usual thing where bigshots are allowed to resign to save face and avoid the public spectacle of being fired that any normal employee would face.
I sincerely hope this leads to a wave of resignations within NPR, with everyone saying “Ich bin ein Berliner” as their parting words.
stuckinbathroom
23d ago
they kicked us off the orange website
I must be out of the loop; when did “we” get banned from Hacker News?
stuckinbathroom
26d ago
If she violates the law and is convicted there is no higher court to appeal to, there is no British constitution.
Actually I’m curious about this. If she loses at the trial court level in Scotland, is there no Scottish court of appeals?
Regardless of the answer to the previous question, if she were to lose both the initial trial and any available appeals within Scotland, could she appeal to an appellate court of the United Kingdom? If not, we are a heartbeat away from nullification being fair game for any devolved legislature within the UK, and bizarrely, the ECHR would have more power than “domestic” British courts, at least in Scotland!
In general the interplay of devolution and the judiciary is fascinating. It’s like the UK is cherry-picking bits and pieces of US- or Canadian-style federalism without a real guiding principle of who exactly has authority over what. No British constitution indeed.
stuckinbathroom
30d ago
There are many, many fucked up things about the American medical system, as has been pointed out by others in this thread, but the silver (well, maybe aluminum) lining here is that the massive debt incurred by a medical education does incentivize graduates to monetize their skills, instead of just treating the MD as a vanity/MRS degree.
Unfortunately, as someone pointed out downthread, "monetizing their skills" these days increasingly means going into tech or pharma, rather than actually, y'know, treating patients.
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
Fair enough, I should have said “unusual among the founding principles/origin myths/civic religions of modern nation-states”, and I think it’s accurate to characterize Judaism as the founding principle and raison d’etre of modern Israel.
I would completely agree with the assessment that a rational observer should be extra vigilant re: genocidal intent or actions from explicitly Islamic nation-states; indeed 20th and 21st century history provides us with examples of such. As for explicitly Christian nation-states, I would say less so, both because they are almost invariably Christian-in-name-only (cf. regular attendance rates at any of the established churches in Europe), and because modern Western Christianity has memetically shed its attachments to the wanton bloodlust of the Old Testament.
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
If it were merely that the ancient Israelites committed genocide, I would agree with you; basically all ancient peoples did at one point or another, and indeed a statute of limitations is in order. But as OP mentioned, Judaism today teaches Jews to delight in the genocidal slaughter perpetrated by their forebears. That is, to say the least, unusual among modern ethnoreligious memes.
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
The supply of loanable funds (a nominal quantity) does not necessarily represent the full production possibilities of the underlying economy (a real one). That is, there are 'real' savings that are not represented by nominal savings at a given price level/quantity of money.
From within the Austrian framework, I think this claim does not hold. I think what you are saying—and please correct me if I’m wrong—is that there may exist savings held (e.g.) in the form of dollar bills in a deposit box at a bank. These bills cannot be lent out as part of the bank’s operations, and hence the real wealth which they represent can never participate in the economy as “investment”.
However, an Austrian would say that those dollar bills are not savings in the sense of forming part of the supply of loanable funds. Savings-as-loanable-funds are a subset of savings-as-deferred-consumption; the former entails the assumption of some risk, while the latter (as in the case of bills in a deposit box) need not.
If you like, holding money qua money, rather than allowing it to be lent out for investment purposes, could be called “exercising demand for money” or less charitably, “hoarding money”, as distinguished from “saving”. An Austrian would say that such hoarding is economically no different from exercising demand in any other way (e.g., through consumption of real goods/services).
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
C++ is no exception
Actually it’s C which is no exceptions, necessitating the use of return codes to indicate success or error
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
God did not intend every individual to have access to a universal Turing machine. On the other hand, Richard Stallman and Linus Torvalds did
“God created men, Richard Stallman made them equal” —new motto of the Free Software Foundation, probably
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
But see also this deboonking
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
It isn't a proper snowclone of the original, though I guess there's an alternate interpretation where the local squire's name was Seamus and the pregnant tenant girl went on to marry a Paddy
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
When you're living in such a place, as the saying goes, they know you "seed, breed and generation" and "all belonging to you"
Paddy’s Seed and Breed (formerly Seamus’s)
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
certain Southeast Asian countries (South Korea, Japan)
Anon, I …
stuckinbathroom
1mo ago
racial spoils system a la Singapore
Did you mean Malaysia? Singapore rather famously does not have racial preferences enshrined in the law, modulo a couple of ceremonial quirks such as Malay being the “national language”.
There are legal requirements that the slate of parliamentary candidates for each electoral district must be racially representative, and that public housing estates must have a minimum level of diversity among residents. But I would hardly call that a “spoils system”, as it doesn’t privilege any one race above others.
stuckinbathroom
2mo ago
I saw what happened in Atlanta, in Philadelphia, in Detroit.
What exactly did you see? And did you see whatever it was in person, with your own two eyes, in each of the 3 cities you mentioned?
If not, then how exactly did you see “what happened”, and have you considered that whatever you saw may have been selectively curated, edited or manipulated?
stuckinbathroom
3mo ago
I am pursuing a job, and indeed it takes up the bulk of my day (~80 hours a week or so). Unfortunately, this job, though financially extremely rewarding, is in a very male-dominated field and my coworkers, though amiable enough in the office, are mostly settled down and not the most social creatures. Hence my reliance on dating apps.
As for my hobbies, I’m a big fan of singing karaoke, playing board games and trivia. Yes, I’m aware that I am a bit of a walking stereotype. My Sunday (well, Saturday) nights are largely spent doing those things with friends. My friend group is reasonably gender-balanced compared to my workplace but there is, I feel, a cultural tendency within the group against asking out other members of the group; instead the vibe is that dating should be kept separate (and, it is implied, app-based) so as to avoid causing drama. In any case, I don’t think there are any currently-single women in the group.
Point well taken that I can and should get into shape. I do think that is the highest-marginal-return-to-attractiveness thing I could do right now, but I don’t see how that would meaningfully widen the top of the funnel. I suppose I might meet someone at the gym, but again, my read of the cultural milieu is that making passes at the gym is generally frowned upon (as always, rules 1 and 2 apply, etc. etc.). The thing is, I was already reasonably happy with my results on Hinge, so I don’t think lack of attractiveness is the biggest issue. My issue right now is that the pipeline has dried up.
stuckinbathroom
3mo ago
Appreciate the effortful response, but I was already fairly happy with my results on Hinge; just needed a bit more time, I think.
The last time I used Tinder in NYC was years ago and things may have changed in the interim. I’ll give it (and possibly other apps) another try, as things may have changed over time and across locales, as you say. Thanks for the suggestion!
stuckinbathroom
3mo ago
Completely unrelated to the matter at hand, but did reading “nullification fetish” trigger a mental image of John C. Calhoun dressed in black leather for anyone else?
stuckinbathroom
3mo ago
I am a late 20s/early 30s American man of South Asian descent, living and working in NYC. Several months ago my account was banned from the dating app Hinge. This has made a lot of people[citation needed] very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move.
I can only speculate as to who got me banned and why. Suffice it to say, I don't think that I deserve this treatment, but the point is moot: as far as I know, there is no appeals process nor any other recourse available to me or anyone else in this situation.
Hinge was by far the best dating app that I had ever used in terms of the number and quality of matches of the type that I'm looking for (mid-late 20s highly-educated Asian-American women looking for a serious relationship/marriage), as well as the conversion rate from match to texting to date. Since my account was banned, I have been forced to use Coffee Meets Bagel, which has resulted in far fewer matches, conversations that go nowhere, and almost zero dates.
What should I do now?
Here is a smattering of ideas that I have considered:
Meet People IRL
Frankly this approach seems dead in the water in this day and age. The only reliable way to meet people in person anymore has been, in my experience, through academia. I had decent dating success in graduate school, though I think that might be more a statement about me/the social settings that I thrive and in: I know from experience that one thing a lot of women find attractive in men is being passionate about something, and passionately holding forth -- or better yet, leading a discussion -- about something. As a TA, I had plenty of opportunities to do just that.
Perhaps I could go for another master's degree, part time. It's even conceivable that my employer would pay for it, if I seIl it right. But that seems like a major investment of time and effort for very questionable benefit.
Use Different Apps
I'm open to recommendations for other dating apps that would be a good fit for someone with my demographics, type and relationship goals (vide supra).
As mentioned previously, I've found CMB to be pretty terrible. I suspect that I may be blacklisted from all Match Group apps (Tinder, Bumble, etc.) due to the Hinge ban, but I could give them a try. However, my limited experience with them has been that they are far worse than Hinge.
I've heard about The League and created a profile but have not put much effort into using it. I could be convinced to spend more time on it if someone can vouch for it.
There's a newfangled app called Saturday that the kids these days are using, but it seems to cater to a slightly younger clientele (early 20s-ish, primarily), and it's really not a dating-centric app; my read is that it's more for meetups/making friends.
Any other apps that I could use?
Circumvent the Ban
I'm reasonably tech-savvy I've done a bit of research on how to do a "hard reset". It sounds like in order to even have a fighting chance of pulling this off, I'd have to:
- Buy a new phone
- Create a new Apple ID/Google account
- Get a new phone number (and hope that whoever previously had that number did not get it banned from Hinge ...)
- Never connect the phone to my home WiFi (i.e. exclusively use mobile data) and disable precise location tracking
- Change my profile info (name, location, DOB, answers to text prompts)
- Use entirely new profile pics
- Pray that whoever got me banned doesn't see and report my profile again
I am willing to put in the time, effort, and money to make all of these things happen. My biggest concern is with item 6: I don't have that many good profile pics beyond the ones I put on my old profile. I've been playing around with some models for generating photos based on Stable Diffusion and I've managed to generate some fairly realistic pics of me, so that may be an option if worst comes to worst. Or I could hire a professional photographer to take some more photos of me.
As for item 7, it's been several months now so I think the odds are pretty slim that that person -- whoever she is -- sees me again, remembers me, and hates me enough to report me again after all this time.
Unfortunately, I was stupid enough to do the "recommended" facial verification on my old profile. I have no idea what kind of technology they use for that, nor how long they store the data for banned accounts, but that alone might mean I'm SOL. I wouldn't do it again if I made a new account, unless forced to, in which case I guess I could grow out my facial hair first to try and look different, or get a friend to scan his face instead.
Something Else Entirely
??? I'm open to any and all suggestions. Thanks for your time!
"The law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal bread."
Less flippantly, my imagined progressive would say that there's no avoiding (at least some) zero-sum games in this world. Thus, the only question is who must win at the expense of whom. And since there must always be an oppressor and an oppressed in every such game, the only political question is how to decide who is oppressing whom in a given situation: to do so clear-sightedly, taking into account the relevant history and particular context, or to bury our heads in the sand and cling to the fiction of "universal principles" -- which is to say, to side with the oppressor?
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