thrownaway24e89172
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implying America is best represented by a white blonde athletic man?
Was best represented by a white blonde athletic man. Steve Rogers was portrayed as a remnant of the past that didn't fit in in modern America. Note also his symbolic passing of the torch to a "black athletic man" after returning to the past.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Regardless of anyone's level of sympathy for irresponsible mothers, there's no reason that they should get less sympathy than irresponsible fathers.
We generally grant less sympathy to those with more power over the situation. We've decided to grant women more power than men over the decision to become parents (via abortion), so it stands to reason they should get less sympathy than men if they are irresponsible.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
I think the biggest difference is male aggression toward women is usually physical while female aggression towards men is usually social, most notably attempted social ostracization. Women attack men's social bonds in ways that men don't attack women's, thus leading to this asymmetry.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
Just as we're more concerned with female vulnerability due to men's physical aggression, I'd argue another big contributor to our concern about male loneliness is the fact that female aggression tends to manifest socially, particularly via ostracization of the target.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
I think you are being a little unfair here. I do not remember anyone on the Motte (even Blue folks like me) reacting to the attempted Trump assassination with anything other than disapproval. Maybe I didn't express enough horror and disapproval for you, but no one thought it was no big deal or worse, something to be encouraged. And by and large, I did not see that reaction even among my most leftie friends. Sure, TikTok was full of people screaming in dismay that the shooter missed, but do you think that actually represents mainstream Blue tribe thinking?
I'm not so sure about this. I don't remember seeing anyone on the Motte reacting that way, but of the people I interacted with IRL in my very blue bubble I was the only one who wasn't openly wishing the shooter hadn't missed. Most at least had the good grace to only do so in conversations held in private rather than public locations, but they were said openly to everyone present to widespread agreement. How much of that was puffery versus how much of it was serious is another question...
I think more Americans of all political stripes think trying to assassinate politicians (even politicians they dislike) is bad, than you are willing to credit.
I think the important question isn't whether or not they think it is bad, but whether they think it is or may become necessary.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
5mo ago
Yeah, one only needs to look at the National Strategy on Gender Equity and Equality to see how this would play out.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1yr ago
At least some of the people complaining are too squeamish to handle such violent scenes of death, much like with suicide and slaughterhouses. Death must be nice and clean so they aren't traumatized by it.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1yr ago
This all assumes that she realizes this before abandoning her husband "to get a better deal". The women I know who have done this didn't give up their high standards until after they left and learned it the hard way. Choosing to leave a partner is often more an emotional decision than a rational one and a sudden drop in QoL isn't exactly conducive to rational thinking.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Second, what's up with nuclear waste? Specifically, if the waste is really a nothing burger, as I see argued often, why do I see (other) experts talking about how to communicate how bad it is to people 10k years in the future. What are those other experts thinking and why are they wrong?
Nuclear waste isn't really a "nothing burger", but the stuff that they claim we'd need to warn people 10k years in the future about is about as dangerous as many toxic but non-radioactive industrial chemicals that we use all the time (ie, ingestion or long-term exposure is bad, but just being around it isn't too dangerous) without worrying about such long-term disposal. Focusing on radioactive waste is therefore special pleading. They will also usually not make this clear to people, letting their audience infer that the long-lived waste is actually much more dangerous than it is by emphasizing the more severe dangers of short-lived waste products.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
I think the way this is usually handled is by defining the contours of the right such that they are not in conflict.
Well yes, and it is quite easy to frame "defining the contours of the right" as "taking away the right" when you think you should be entitled to different contours.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
I wouldn't care what progressives talk about if they also didn't come in and disrupt local government planning meetings, sabotaging years of bipartisan efforts that had been steadily making progress (eg, on topics like @what_a_maroon brought up) by being an intransigent minority insisting that any solution involve directly confronting racism and sexism.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Everyone just wants policing to be "just". The problem is that not everyone agrees on how to make policing more "just" or even what "just" policing is. The "pro-reform" block in the US currently claims that the primary reason that policing is unjust is racism and sexism, and thus focus on policies that they believe would reduce racism and sexism. They also claim that white men, the largest demographic victimized by police malfeasance, categorically cannot be victims of racism or sexism. They regularly erase them from narratives about justice reform (eg see my comment on the old site discussing declining white support for BLM) and strongly overestimate victimization of other groups. Do you really think that alienating the largest group of victims by implying their victimization is "just", unlike the "unjust" victimization of other demographics, and downplaying their victimization while exaggerating others' "just isn't a factor"?
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
18d ago
Too bad. Vanishingly few would truly rather be a single mother--rather they expect the benefits men normally bring to relationships be provided by society so they don't have to suffer the compromises necessary to make a relationship work. Such selfish entitlement shouldn't be encouraged by society.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
From what I see, young men that look a bit gay have not been smothered by concern trolls who insinuate they're actually gay and do it so cleverly that they can't be rebuked. Those are the benefits of a culture that promotes accepting people as who they say they are.
Apparently you are either blind or living in a very different bubble than me, as I see this quite a bit and know a number of men who definitely have felt smothered by such insinuations.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
4mo ago
I don't know about your workplace, but I've never had a job where I had to prove that to HR (the rough private sector equivalent of OPM here) or shareholders (the rough private sector equivalent of the "public" here) directly. That's always been strictly between me and my direct management.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
8mo ago
because the Taliban will give those men the power over women that the former society could or would not and every soldier or potential soldier knew it.
I think they probably cared less about power over women and more about power over their abusers. Ending the practice of bacha bazi was a prominent selling point for the Taliban the last two times it took power in Afghanistan. Maybe we should have considered not covering up such practices by our "allies", but ensuring first-world LGBT people aren't smeared as pedophiles is apparently more important than preventing child sexual abuse.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
10mo ago
Girls and women are very clearly told that what we wear makes us responsible for men's behavior towards us.
And men are told that it is fine to creep shame us if what we wear makes women uncomfortable. So which is it? Are people responsible for what they choose to wear or not?
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Louisiana's legal system is really weird by US standards, being (AFAIK) the only civil law jurisdiction in country. I imagine at least part of the reason you get the impression you do from it is due to it having different failure modes than common law systems, making those failures stand out more.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
It's quite common that the exercising of one's rights infringes in some way on the rights of others. Society then comes up with rules to balance the rights of one versus the other, usually putting some restrictions on both. As an example, consider sexual harassment. A man asserts his right to freedom of speech. A woman asserts his exercising of that right infringes her right to not be subject to unwanted sexual stimulation. Similarly, a woman asserts her right to wear whatever she wants. A man asserts her exercising of that right infringes his right to not be subject to unwanted sexual stimulation.
EDIT: Grammar.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Should we let the police slide because MSN talked about the wrong cases too much?
The ways progressives talk about police reform to combat injustice make me believe that they think it is fine to "let police slide" when it is people like me who are impacted by it, that it is not actually injustice in that case. If you want me to support your solution to "actual injustice", you damn well better prove to me that the injustices committed against my demographic are also going to be solved by it. Progressives seem to go out of their way to avoid doing so and expect to gain my support solely through emotional blackmail. Fuck that.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2yr ago
Any thoughts on the really nice Japanese bidets? I miss them after having a taste of absolute asshole luxury.
I'll never forget the first time I went to the restroom at the University in Japan. The first stall had the fanciest toilet I'd ever encountered, with a wall of buttons controlling among other things the bidet settings. The second stall was just a trench in the floor.
Did you know that most non-Japanese men speak Japanese like a woman? According to the book it's because most Japanese language teachers are women.
This does not line up with my experience at all, unless the meaning here is just "more like Japanese women speak than like Japanese men speak". I believe most Japanese language programs start out teaching a polite, gender-neutral form of Japanese, later moving on to other forms as the student becomes more and more fluent. This has the effect of causing non-native speakers to "default" to this particular form since, being the form they learned first, it is the form they are usually the most comfortable with. Japanese women tend to use this form more often than Japanese men and thus non-Japanese men speak Japanese like women in this sense, and I could see an argument that this form being the default starting form is a result of most Japanese language teachers being women. However, there are also many grammatical constructs and vocabulary that are nearly exclusively used by (EDIT: men or women) one gender or the other. You won't typically see non-Japanese men using the ones used by Japanese women unless they are intentionally trying to sound like a woman.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
9mo ago
How can you be pro-trans without also being pro-anime?
Be a feminist who is convinced that anime objectifies and sexualizes women. Eg, see UN Women's regular attempts to crack down on anime and manga.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
10mo ago
I find it more like a pub or club that I keep stumbling back to than a home. A wretched hive of scum and villainy as it were.
I wonder if she'd be so quick to agree that women have an obligation to stand by and allow themselves to be victimized, eg was Cyntoia Brown in the wrong in her worldview?
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