yofuckreddit
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yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I don't have a specific one, but I have felt the rut as well. A couple things I like:
- Skipping television. It seems typical that those in relationships are "dragged" into watching shows and movies with their spouse. Just... don't do that more than 1-2 times a week.
- Working out. I invested in an internal bike, I can do beat saber, or during warm months I can strap some lights on a bike and hit the greenway.
- Building legos. I can milk a big set for weeks or months, and I purposefully work slowly.
- Plan a project. Build the spreadsheet, queue the cart from the home improvement store, order the car parts, do the research. Make it to where the thing you have to do during the day goes off without a hitch.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Be warned - the bottle you lean on during trauma can be hurt by association! If it's your daily driver, consider punishing yourself with something worse instead.
I almost lost my taste for Lagavulin 16 after drinking it for my old firm being bought out by a shitty multinational and 2 deaths of close friends. Had to pull it back and reserve it for birthdays and bonuses.
Hope the difficulties from the breakup pass soon.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I'm unreasonably psyched that you both tried a rec and liked it. I've had an excellent hit rate with that in the past and I'm glad it worked out.
Tonight I'll be having people over for a round of the Dune board game, which means I'll need to be alert enough to teach but then get drunk enough to give someone else a fighting chance. I'll be building espresso martinis on top of some elusive, limited run "Bensa Bomb" Ethiopian from my subscription, or I'll eschew the temperamental light roast for a Counter Culture staple. The homemade coffee liqueur gifted by some of my buddies really steps these up a notch over what I can get at a bar, but finding the right time to fuck up your sleep schedule when you have kids is difficult.
I may take the coward's path and just make margaritas.
When visiting Kansas a few weeks ago I dropped almost $500 on whiskey which should last me a significant amount of time, since I have cut back and largely stuck with it since January. I was able to grab Heaven Hill's 7y BiB for something like $40 and I quite enjoy it. The cheap 6 year expression was never available where I live so I don't have the FOMO that kills the taste for those who did have access.
Speaking of FOMO, I'm still milking my 2017 bottle of Rendezvous Rye from High West. I'm preparing to kill it once I have a small group over of people who actually give a shit and have a developed palate, because holy crap the old version is so much better. It doesn't even have the 16-year-old juice in it like the stuff pre-2016 did, but it's perhaps the most succinct way to explain to someone how fucking hard making great whiskey is and why MGP is such a dominant force. The current version is still drinkable, but when you put it alongside its older brother manufactured by someone else it becomes borderline unpalatable.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
bakfiets
They do sell these. I've considered getting some sort of variant of this or a longtail cargo bike for sure.
Truthfully, I'm out of room in the garage for another huge bike (for a total of 3). The price for a new one is $2,500+, wheras this trailer was $100 used. I do have some grocery and playgrounds in pedal distance and it's not out of the question, though.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
On the flipside, though, I will say that the Netherland's helmet culture is a bit of a chicken or the egg situation.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but people are generally riding heavy bikes very slowly in highly protected lanes.
If we're road riding in America, there's a significant cohort of negligent drivers. There's even a small group of drivers who want to actively hurt and kill cyclists. Helmets on public roads for riders - even to my risk-pooh-poohing self - are necessary. Not to mention the sort of downhill mountainbiking I do every once in a while.
Even our greenway, while at least an order of magnitude safer, isn't without hazards. Other cyclists are moving at a huge variety of speeds, myself included, from a drowsy beach cruiser to someone chasing a KOM on a segment. Pedestrians weave back and forth with abandon, huge groups take up the whole path, and dogs on leashes dart in front of cyclists at will.
I can minimize these greatly by being verbal and passing slowly. When I'm towing the trailer, the risk of me having to emergency stop or swerve is extremely low.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I appreciate the input - thank ya!
The animal-parent part of my brain agrees. My youngest fell off a part of the playground recently, and it makes me want to have him wear a helmet there as well.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I tried to keep my tone neutral to get genuine feedback but for what it's worth, my default opinion is very close to yours.
I think this is insane. I'm taking my kids to the park in what's essentially a stroller with a roll cage and a five point harness and I'm still having this disagreement with my wife//the reddit hivemind suggests I would be a piece of shit.
Riding with my toddler on that Shotgun saddle (wearing a helmet! totally necessary!) has been one of my favorite parenting experiences and he went nuts for it. Now I feel like they're miserable.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Gotcha - FWIW the hour is cumulative (30 minutes there, then we hang out at the playground till they're tired, then we head back).
Getting it to flip would be really difficult in my experience. There's a flex joint that prevents it from doing so if the bike falls down, and I'm not exactly hopping curbs or speeding around corners.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I've never been super comfortable pavement road riding by myself (vastly prefer gravel) so minimize road time as much as possible. I believe the chances of us being hit by a car on these roads is adjacent to zero. I agree that being hit by a car is pretty much game over regardless of roll cage etc.
I can see the helmet coming into play if I've forgotten to secure the 5-point hardness and there's a flip.
I do like taking them pretty regularly - perhaps 2x a week?
Great thoughts, thank you!
I use a bike trailer to tow my children. I take them to and from a playground, which is around a 30 minute ride in each direction.
It is 90% greenway, with some sleepy 2-lane connector roads. While I am of course an incredible pedal pumping engine capable of incredible feats, I average only around 12 mph.
The bike trailer has a 5-point harness and an aluminum roll cage.
The problem: Putting helmets on my kids looks fucking miserable. Their heads are cast downward, they have nowhere to look around, and the youngest is clearly upset after around 15 minutes in the trailer. The oldest still has an OK time but is far quieter than when we rode together with a secondary saddle. FAQ says deal with it.
Assume you're a typical parent (I.E. your children are the most important thing in your life and you can't imagine causing them harm through negligence) but you also loathe the vapid stupidity of "better safe than sorry" in the face of all rationality, would you consider forgoing the helmet?
"Other Site" discussions:
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I have always loved weed, though as I've gotten older the side effects have gotten more intense. Same as others already mentioned:
- High Heart Rate (same as alcohol)
- Difficulty being alert right after waking (noticeable, but far superior to alcohol)
- Anxiety (Worse than alcohol)
I typically create my own "Green Dragon" tincture. This allows precise dosing, eliminates damage to your lungs either through burning flower or vaping, it's easier to socialize with people who haven't tried weed before, and is a great excuse to make a citrus cocktail for consumption.
Like others mentioned, just taking a lower dose can be almost as fun with far fewer side effects. I'm an extremely cheap date at this point, and go through maybe a quarter ounce a year when partaking 1-2 times per week.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Why is the American middle class paying for anesthesiologists to make $700k a year when their equivalents in European countries that are almost as rich are paid like $150k?
Because they graduate with $300k+ in school debt? Doctor salaries are a part of artificially constrained supply, yes, but becoming a doctor in the US requires you take on enormous financial risk.
A decade on from completing undergrad, folks in medical-adjacent fields are still underwater on pretty high interest student loans. Long term they're massively overpaid, but the people who somehow don't pass exams or don't get into medical school are fucked.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I've been considering it. It seems like it's been in the field for a while with what I view as reasonable and expected side effects. Any more detail on your position?
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I was disciplined a couple of times by hair-pulling
Jesus, that sounds horrific. There's something intimate and hateful about it?
I was given Tobasco as a punishment for swearing (which led to a long-term love of hot sauce and hatred of Tobasco) and was hit with a spoon maybe once a year. The spoon broke when I was 14, and then after that control was exerted more through money etc.
All that to say I now have a good relationship with my parents.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Is that just something you're going to have to live with the rest of your life? Does she have any interest in changing?
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Cycling is seethingly, maddeningly blue-coded, to the point where major events provide "scholarships" to anyone who's not a white male and demand the latter pay more than asked.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
This is a flippant response, but I don't care about how fast we make progress in AI.
Of course regulation will slow it down and make it worse, just like it poisons everything else it touches. Given the track record of top-down national or regional regulation, I don't feel like anyone advocating against it should be on the back foot or defending it. What would good regs look like? Because the EU's effort looks like shit and so do many of the drafts I've seen from the US. In any case, the US's rate of progress on this doesn't matter to me.
But yes, I've noticed the people who love gun control also seem to be very excited about telling me what software I can run on my GPU. Especially if it offers the possibility of improving my life and competing with a state actor. It's no coincidence, then, that I consider them mortal enemies as well.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
if you're asking people on the internet this question, you aren't anywhere near needing to worry about the limits
My hope is this was an intellectual exercise instead of a serious inquiry.
Otherwise it's much like women worrying about being too "ripped". Honey, it'll never happen - and if it does, a week on the couch will swing you back just fine.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
My most successful advice-giving sessions have been when I build up enormous political capital by giving zero advice (like... for years in the face of obviously self-destructive behavior) and then finally "snap" and really lay into someone for being an idiot.
I think the idea if mr. easygoing yofuckreddit tells you that things are fucked up, it's a serious deal.
YMMV.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
For what it's worth:
- This sounds very negative and unhealthy long term, I would definitely start making moves to leave
- It's always advantageous to be "branch swinging" instead of finding a new job without one.
When I hire someone who quit, I have to do a lot more mental and emotional math. Are they a diva who's too good to stick it out? Did they get canned and are lying to me about it? Anyone interviewing you probably isn't going to ping your boss and won't know if you're telling the truth with high certainty. It makes things a lot easier for everyone if you can grab something new while still employed somewhere.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
That's your feeling? Maybe I'm a mediocritie but I can name quite a few folks under me who, with a button up and some experience presenting (ExECuTiVe PrEsEnCe), are great substitutes.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Fuck you for illuminating this possibility!
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Speaking for myself, if there were a bunch of jannies lording over people constantly with a long list of rules, I wouldn't participate.
The whole move here was because of the reddit admins making clear they wanted more bans, more policing, etc.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Then like Linkin Park and Limp Bizkit happened, and it was so lame it killed it?
Hybrid Theory and Meteora are masterpieces, I won't tolerate this slander.
I love hip-hop, rap, and R&B. I think your points here about how annoying it is to be a fan of these genres is spot on.
Donald Glover touched on how often he was treated as an Uncle Tom early on in his career. Eventually, though, he fell in line - "This is America" was a tarted-up whypepo bad anthem. I more closely identify with black masculinity than the average moustache-and-plaid barista, but it's always strange to hear about how someone would fuck my bitch.
There's a maximum amount of anti-white sentiment I can handle in order to pay to music and go to shows. If I know someone has complained about certain people singing their lyrics, it's off to the high seas for the album.
Unfortunately in life there are many products made by people who actively hate me. The average coffee roaster, bike shop, or beer brewer spits in my face just as much.
Completely disagree on commander. 60 card is great for learning with your kid, but for playing with more than one person it's just a way better format. The pre-cons are slow and weak, but extremely understandable for a kid. You can both upgrade them with printed proxies as he gets smarter, or leave them intact and see if you can rope the wife/other kids into playing!
When you buy those pre-cons they come with the tokens you need. People use dice on top of cards, post-it notes, and Infinity Tokens.
Over the past 5 years Magic has gotten worse, in my estimation. More woke, worse print quality, tougher balance. I don't pay for cards anymore, or at least very little. However it's still the best game ever made. I'm seriously considering paying aftermarket prices for the warhammer 40k precon commander deck that I played with recently, it was a blast.
Finally if he wants to get into the social aspect of FNM etc. I'd suggest it, eventually. But the reputation of MTG nerds is well-earned. He will find and meet cheaters and assholes - he'll also potentially find some of his best, lifelong friends. I think it's worth the risk once he's good enough to give it a shot. Be prepared to spend $ to keep up with the meta-game though.
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