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A point I realized in discussions with my wife (early millenial), her mom (boomer) and her sister (gen X) is that there are two fundamentally opposed kinds of male supremacism: First, the idea that biological men are just better, and second, that male social norms are just better. The first is extremely unpopular and is fought very openly and very hard, the second is ... complicated.
Especially among liberal Gen X and older women, there is a common story of noticing that you're being valued for your school and later career accomplishments, and having to become tough and competitive to make it in, often explicitly called, "the world of men". Meanwhile, the worst that can possibly happen to you, that will make your parents bow their head in shame and your classmates laugh about you, is to become pregnant early. Even later, while your parents might switch to start egging you to have kids, your environment will subtly or not-so-subtly never really stops primarily considering your status through the lens of achievements. Anyone can have kids, after all, so it's much more prestigious to become a high-powered lawyer, a professor, or something else.
All of this is a very straightforward application of norms that formerly only applied to men, now also to women. Formerly female norms, centering on communal decision-making, friendliness and inclusivity, as well as achievements, mostly revolving around motherhood and the household, were de-emphasized in the former case and discarded wholesale in the later. Interestingly, acknowledging this will regularly get you dismissed as a male supremacist, on the logic that of course the virtues/achievements I call "male" here are actually just general virtues/achievements, and implying that women might be less good or even just merely care less about them is akin to claiming that women are lesser.
This lead to an dynamic in which Gen X men who are very stereotypically male, who are dismissive of femininity, nevertheless consider themselves pro-feminist in the sense of thinking that women can and should behave the same as successful men. Several of my (former) profs are like that.
Of course people generally don't really change fundamentally, so this just got bottled up for as long as it was necessary. With women increasingly being a majority in many fields, they can now simply enforce new norms, even if it takes some time to (re-)normalize them. And it's unsurprising that these new norms happen to reflect feminine virtues. And the Gen X men are the ones being blasted the hardest, who additionally feel completely blindsided since it's a fundamentally different kind of feminism than the one they were told is the right kind. Millenial men might also be split on whether they like this development, but they seem much less surprised.
My wife notices this a lot, contrasting what she is told by her mother what she "needs to do" to be successful in the workplace, and how much her mom was kept back and discriminated against (in addition to being an east german in a west german company, who didn't get her advanced degree accepted to boot!), often in fairly overt ways ... and many of those don't really apply anymore, except for the part where you get screwed over hard for having kids and actually wanting to care for them. As long as you're childless and conform to male norms, you are, if anything, getting beneficial treatment.
The woke revolution seems to a substantial degree to be women just re-asserting that their values matter, too. But unfortunately these values can be wildly disadvantageous in the workplace; For example, you can't do without substantial competitiveness that women find deeply unpleasant. So at the end we arrive at a weird androgynous ideal, where men are forced to engage in female norms they dislike, while women are forced to engage in male norms they dislike. The "great feminization theory" is in this way correct about the recent changes, but fails to see the ways in which women also have accepted a, for lack of a better word, internalized masculinization a longer time ago that now sits so deep that calling it into question feels to many like a personal attack on their self-worth.
Dunno how we can fix this. Just talking about the issue usually gets you called names, and average differences are dismissed with single counterexamples. It's understable that women don't want to be forced all the way back into the kitchen, but at the same time, many of them clearly aren't very happy in highly competitive workplaces that don't suit their values. And the men likewise don't want to work in an adult Montessori kindergarten, either.
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