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non_radical_centrist  1yr ago (farhakhalidi.substack.com)   8302 thread views

confessions of a femcel: why i'm a 24 year old female virgin.

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It's an essay about the various flaws modern feminist sex positivity culture has for women, and that it's often a good idea to refrain from sex even if one isn't religious. The author is an Only Fans model for context. I thought it did a great job laying out the downsides of ubiquitous sex.(Reposted because I accidentally linked to reddit instead of the original essay earlier).

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I found it remarkable that she fully offloaded any responsibility from women for the status quo. They are all being forced to have all this sex with strangers by the men and the media and have zero accountability themselves.

Little by little she comes to agree with what her mother taught her. Her onlyfans career is perhaps best viewed as a way to continue her rebellion without a cause.

I found it remarkable that she fully offloaded any responsibility from women for the status quo. They are all being forced to have all this sex with strangers by the men and the media and have zero accountability themselves.

I came to something of the opposite conclusion. She was condemning purity culture and sex positive feminists, but wasn't ultimately trying to stop them. That this essay was targetted at women to convince them not to engage in sex that will make them unhappy, and to inform them that it's not anti-feminist to remain a virgin. That they can and should take responsibility for their happiness in relationships and not allow themselves to be manipulated.

Indeed, they should take responsibility, but bear none for how things have gotten to this point and bear no responsibility for their present unhappiness.

That's not what I said. I think women should take more responsibility in general.

Which is great for about the top 2 standard deviations but leaves the other 95% of the people drifting with far too few navigational aids.

And I think we should move our cultural navigational aids more towards being anti-hook up culture without moving all the way back to purity culture.

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