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I am not a Luddite, nor do I consider myself internet illiterate. I am definitely online on a daily basis far more than my wife, though she and I seem to look at very different things (she seems to like cat videos and local--here I mean our surrounding city--news). I am probably more online than most (not all) of my peer group of guys with whom I regularly consume beverages (though I've been on the water wagon for a few weeks). I preface this to say I often find myself lost in discussions here when everyone seems to know what everyone else is alluding to.
Example: In this comment reference is made to LoTT, which I only know means "LibsofTikTok" from context. I do not however have any idea who this is. I could of course search--and often that's what I do, especially if literally everyone starts talking about x y or z, I search--but that quickly becomes tiresome. I also remember recent reference to LoTT when certain members were critical of certain other members--but it was all about events I know nothing about.
I am better equipped to understand references to ACX or SSC (eg Scott Alexander's stuff) but I by no means have read even 25% of that large body of online writing, as interesting and well-written as much of it is. I've never really browsed Lesswrong. I don't consider myself a rationalist or effective altruist. A lot of the names regularly tossed about (Yudowsky, Moldbug) are names I've had to look up in context of discussions because they're people I otherwise wouldn't have heard of.
As I say I am not an internet noob and I like to think I have a halfway-to-respectable vocabulary. When someone says something is "perfectly cromulent" I get the irony. But lots whizzes past me. Is this me being old? I'm wearing Vans ffs. Or am I just slightly removed from the typical demographic that ends up here?
I think it just means you're online but not "extremely" online. On my worst days I will look at my phone for several hours. Start the day looking at it, eat while looking at it, look at it at the gym, look at it as I go to bed. Essentially I will be looking at it continuously unless I'm doing something that absolutely requires me not to (like work, or cooking, or talking to someone). I've seen new things pop up in my feeds that get discussed to death over a short span (~hours) and then very quickly morph into acronyms or mutated meme versions of the original name for the thing. Unless you are truly near constantly on X or Reddit or whatever your knowledge of what's current can become out of date in less than a day and these new terms become hard to understand. So I think what you're describing is just inevitable if you're not completely plugged in all the time.
Ooof, that sounds kinda bleak. Are you happy with spending that much time on your phone?
Yeah, it's definitely bleak. And no, not at all. That's when my habit it at my worst. Usually it's an hour a day, including reading Substack and TheMotte. But I'm pretty sure there are a lot of people out there who are on their phones even more than I described, especially prolific Twitter and Reddit posters.
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