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Let's expand on this a bit, because I think this is actually the main factor. I don't think it's as simple as 'selfish' though, I think that there is definitely a strand of hedonists individualism that a certain strain of the right is pretty serious about. I think it's the urban or at least suburban right wing that has absorbed some of the values of the 00s. They aren't rugged, really, they just have strong convictions about freedom, how they would like to be allowed to act, etc. Those convictions are all well and good, but they don't signal a willingness to settle down and have a family.
A man serious about church can meet women there and demonstrate his commitment by, well, attending church. That's a really positive social signal. Winging about the latest Prime series being too woke and such just makes you sound like you hate women, and certainly doesn't make you sound commitment oriented. Likewise, calling for armed revolt is a classic tough guy move, but only as a sign of machismo, no woman actually wants to live through a civil war (any more than a man does) unless they're one of the ones running around with a rifle. And they won't be if they're pregnant.
See, that's the greatest failure of the Librarian imagination: there's no room for a state of vulnerability, but the hetero women that a republican man would be looking for knows that at some point they will be vulnerable. They will be pregnant, they will be caring for children.
That's the mission. Guys who are trying to win some high score number of partners? They're off mission. Guys who's hobbies are completely antithetical to having a family? Again, off mission. They might not see stamping out The Trans as protecting kids so much as men attacking the vulnerable. If you're not willing to submit yourself to the mission, or don't appear willing to, then you're going to have trouble finding a partner.
Sorry this wasn't as coherent as I'd like a motte post to be, but in my defense a baby just screamed in my face for an hour.
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