The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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How to deal with demotivation around feeling too old? That is, the persistent feeling that there's no point in starting anything to try to develop a skill, complete a large project, or make an effort toward a large life-improvement goal, because before I can get anywhere meaningful enough to justify the effort, I'll be dead — there's just not enough time left in my life to get anything of note done, so all that's left is to sit down and pass the time waiting to die.
I have spent half a decade publicly writing about my own life including the parts where I went to LARP as a founder at a failed from the beginning startup, being an orbiter for girls who look worse than me and fuckng my life yet i did fix some things in my life and have been constantly tryng to do better.
You can only go forward. No matter how good or bad life was, we cannot live clinging to those beliefs. I wish I had not done a lot of things. All my mistakes are public here. I just wish I had done all of it with 100 percent intensity and was consistent and mindful in doing what I did.
I am 24, not young by any means and have never had a job due to my failed attempts at starting a startup, yet i still do math and web dev stuff so that I can ultimately be a good engineer and tackle harder fields. More than that, the satisfaction in a good day's work beats most feelings in the world. No one does things of note, we will not care about Newton since at some point life as we know it will end. I was told 4 years ago here to embrace sun and steel over these sharp spikes in pleasure from things that I know are wrong, the guy who recommended it, standard_order was right, and I suggest the same to you.
I can sleep at night knowing that I am not wasting my life when I work, you may find my line of thinking valuable.
No, you can also call it quits and take the exit.
You can. But why not do something in the meantime? If you end up calling it quits, what have you lost by pursuing an interest in the meantime? If you don't call it quits, maybe you'll have achieved some of what you want in 1, 3, 5 years instead of just being 1, 3, 5 years older and still dissatisfied?
By "call it quits and take the exit" I mean the exit on life. I'm saying that "going forward" isn't the only thing I can do, because there's always the option of suicide.
I understood that. But look at it this way - I posted that a week ago. You just responded so you're still here. That's a week you could have worked toward whatever. Next week, if you're not dead, would be another week. If you kill yourself, sure, the time you spent working towards your goals will be over. If you don't kill yourself, you may achieve some of what you want. If you're going to kill yourself anyway, what do you have to lose by filling your time meaningfully until you do?
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