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I just discovered ex-gay twitter. I personally agree with their viewpoint that a lot of gays would be happier be heterosexually married with the occasional gay experience. Mostly I just think most men even gay have naturally desires for a family and that’s best in a heterosexual relationship. And most gays don’t want to do the mundane women work of watching little kids but would rather be the more aloof father that does the male roles. You can put me in that camp that we are an evolved species with deeply rooted programming on what leads us to a happy life. And homosexuality to me seems like a couple of your genes are off that may individually have benefits but combined turned your gay, but the vast majority of your genetic programming is still happier in traditional heterosexual relationships. As a society we have decided that a small bit of a person their sexuality should dominate the totality of that person.
Culture war wise these views are far outside of appropriate viewpoints today. Anyway here’s the articles and twitter threads on the movement. Even for someone with a belief that society should be more libertarian I still think our culture has gone wrong and promoted the old ways is better for the species just not by government force.
https://www.piratewires.com/p/ex-gay-twitter
https://twitter.com/piratewires/status/1584941608688320512?s=46&t=Dc1wiLnAbZQuf1ZEsEPebA
This lines up a lot with this article describing being gay in Saudi Arabia that I read a few years ago. The gay community is entirely bottoms, who often dress effeminately, picking up straight men. And it's only being a bottom that's illegal, the top won't be prosecuted.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2007/05/the-kingdom-in-the-closet/305774/
I really wonder how in the West gay culture got to be how it is, where you have tops who are purely homosexual or homosexuals who have domestic symmetrical pairings where they take turns and live similarly to a heterosexual couple.
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