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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 24, 2022

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First, I want to point out that you already have an AAQC in the hopper for the next roundup; no one should imagine I've put that there because the mod team is trying to change your mind or anything. It was a good post, and deserves to be where it is.

When I said:

Children's libraries are no place for these materials. Making such materials available to children is textbook grooming. Do you honestly advocate for distributing such things to children? If so, you're a groomer, too, by every definition offered in the thread thus far.

I couched a very particular criticism in a narrow hypothetical, but I still made it a personal criticism, using a word I knew to be inflammatory, and I should not have done that, no matter how much argument or evidence I thought I was bringing to bear. I apologize.

I do not regard the kind of person who can write what you've written here, in the way you've written it, as someone who is mentally or emotionally prepared to have serious, productive discussions about difficult topics. I will not ban you for this comment, nor will I advocate for others to do so, insofar as I feel somewhat culpable for it. But this is the level of engagement to which I will point in explaining all of your past and possible future bans. I have never, and will never, moderate you for disagreeing with me. I have, and will in the future if necessary, moderate you for posting at this level of uncharitable and outraged engagement with those who disagree with you.

But if you do leave, I will be sorry to miss out on your AAQCs. When you're not hopping mad, you're really quite a good contributor.

I have, and will in the future if necessary, moderate you for posting at this level of uncharitable and outraged engagement with those who disagree with you.

I must note that your engagement with PMCM in that thread looked to me deliberately uncharitable and designed to provoke outrage.

I have to agree here, definitely concerned now that this is being brought to my attention. But the apology and commitment to doing better is important.

Moderators here have a tough job, and I'd imagine it's hard to stay perfectly neutral on all topics.