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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   3607 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for October 30, 2022

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Wierd question, but how do you fully move on from a breakup ?

It's been 5 months since i broke up with my gf of 2 years and i still find myself agonizing about it every once in a while.

We broke up on good terms, it was an amazing relationship and honestly we were just not in the same place in life. (Figuratively and geographically). I want to be able to look back at that time in my life fondly, but also move onto something new without feeling much baggage. Time has healed a bit and i have generally been looking forward, but it feels all too slow.

More experienced people int he sub, how have you dealt with this before ?

The best thing I've found to do was distract yourself, try to do fun, mind absorbing things, and try not to go to places that remind you of the relationship or breakup.

I've found that eventually you HAVE to go to the places that remind you of the relationship, if only to help overwrite the memory.

Trying to avoid them constantly is a major hassle.

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