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Why do I hate every job I do?
I changed job, like, 4 times in my life. To give a bit of perspective, I did a bit of everything (Public servant in administration, consultancy for a small company, then marketing specialist, now business developer and client & project manager)
EVerytime the job was defined by an initial sense of excitement and wonder, an honeymoon lasting like 6 months, and then complete demoralization and destruction. The reasons are always the same: Sense of abandonement from upper echelon, sense of uselessness, frustration derived from general disorganisation etc.
But after changing several jobs, everytime with radical differences both in theme, position, duties, working hours, wage etc, I am beginning to think that maybe the problem resides with me? I am more of an academic/literate type, always loved to write, read, talk with people. But earning a life with this kind of job is impossible, so I decided to pursue more earthly manners. But still, I feel frustrated, and despite adopting every possible idea to improve on the job (training, strict sleep and relaxation schedule, learning how to focus and external tools to remember tasks etc), I still fail to feel remotely good at something.
I have no idea what to do, I feel way less intelligent than I look like from the external.
Your attitude strikes me as bizarre. You find work is generally horrible, and yet, you act surprised. Most people rapidly intuit that work something they pay you thousands of dollars for, because otherwise, you wouldn't do it. Why is this hard to understand? Are you a Millennial raised by Boomers or something?
Listen to your Gen X, apple-obsessed buddy: The only non-negotiable element of work is money. Step into your next position with a realistic attitude that says if you do accomplish anything meaningful or have any fun at work, once in a while, ever, that's a good day!
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