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This is 100% your bubble. I have never met a woman that owns a sex toy or masturbates. This is media programming of masculinized blue tribe women
You've definitely met many of both (more who masturbate), it just hasn't been mentioned due to local norms
False, this is Kinsey style propaganda like how 50% of men have had homosexual relations. Pure cope from blue tribers who feel compelled to insist everyone is as sexually perverse as they are. I have lived with female roommates, lived with multiple girlfriends and am married. This tactic doesn’t work on me
edit: I’m just speaking the truth of my lived experience, please stop invalidating me
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Even if/given that it is modern society-degenerate-prison brainwashing, most people still do masturbate. Most conservatives I know jerk it to porn just like the liberals do. There's no point in making stuff up about it, the libs aren't gonna lose because you claimed conservatives doesn't jerk off, it just means you have a flawed understanding of social dynamics and are less equipped to solve whatever issues there are
Certainly some women don't masturbate. Some men don't masturbate! Peoples' actions are wildly contingent on both social norms and individual decisions, motivations, etc. The wrong part was 'women I've met don't masturbate/sex toy', which is just false in any normal modern american/western context.
Okay, random question, unrelated to topic: are you Indian? I figured you were some form of European from your username, but I've only ever seen Indian people use the phrase "the same" the way you did.
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