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Bro you are just a communist, in my humble opinion. There is nothing to do here. When you go to McDonald's in Denmark Ms Teen America takes your order with a smile and a wink. When I went to Starbucks to ask 'hey, how do you feel about this recent news' you give me interminable wordwall and the wage-slave gives me blank face
Edit: To illustrate my point there is a 'strung out old gal' working the counter at a gas station down the street from the Starbucks in question that I frequent. We're genuinely actual friends. She had my number. The other day her power went out and I went over to deliver a shitty old freezer box I had sitting around in my garage. That's neighbors.
Your OP was bad, pointless, and seemed like nothing more than an opportunity to dunk on an outgroup.
You then piled on with
In response to someone engaging with you reasonably and civilly.
It's been six months since your last ban, but every time you pop up in the queue, it's for shitty exchanges like this. You just don't learn and you're obnoxious.
Another two week ban.
ETA: Escalated to 30 days for using report tool to throw insults.
ETA2: Toddler threw a tantrum. Permaban.
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I'm a neo-liberal capitalist with a twist actually. And it was very nice of you with the gas station worker, bit that illustrates my point. You built a relationship with her over time then she could ask you for a favor.
You can't speedrun the relationship.
Danish Miss Teen America (?) takes your order sure. Try asking a French waiter a stupid question though. Norms are different in different places at different time for different people. You have to learn to navigate the ones in front of you. Not the ones you wish there were.
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