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I'm curious, do you think that the whole "Desmond is amazing" ketamine thing has anything to do with sex? Like do you see it as kids playing around? Because as a gay dude it seems obvious to me that he's non-figuratively being groomed by adult men, and iirc the CPS investigation backed that impression up. Yet corporations sponsor this stuff, and YouTube just deletes the incriminating videos and everyone pretends it didn't happen.
Telling people they can't point this out just seems wrong when doing this to kids is literally the thing they have issues with.
That is incredibly naive, and if it is truly your interpretation, there's very little common ground in which to have this kind of conversation.
He's 11, being showered with praise and money for pretending to be an adult, dancing sexually. It's fucked up, it's obviously fucked up, and the most fucked up part is not that it's happening, but that it's being celebrated. I can understand how people would do this to a child. I can't understand other people celebrating it. Or in your case, downplaying.
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TIL that it's normal for young boys to pretend to be female rock stars and dance in front of adults in a gay club. Well how Science Marches On since I was that age!
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