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PaperclipPerfector  2d ago (text post)   1589 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for May 18, 2025

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You never know what's going on in this woman's life. Just as women can smell desperation, so can you and I. And desperation makes people neurotic. And neurotic people can act very unpredictably. The "You're not expecting sex" line was enough of a warning signal to set my alarm off. (Which isn't to say it's unreasonable of her to not want intercourse on a first or any date, but it's weird to ask like that over text.) I'm guessing she is very attractive to you, otherwise you'd be able to shrug this off. My advice is shrug it off anyway.

It's not a weird expectation, I'm just annoyed that sexual anxieties are coming up, when she's the one who's making things sexual in the first place. It seems like a self-own on her part.

I'm just sick of women laying it on way thicker than they need to, and it turning out to not have meant anything all along. Whereas I have to constantly hide or downplay my genuine interest in people.

I'm also way over-exposed to prog/leftist/SJW sexual mores, where all women apparently live in such overwhelming fear of sexual assault, I'm surprised they ever leave the house, much less try to bilk men for attention.

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