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Run yourself on dating apps. If you can't break 30 likes in 24 hours, you're most likely unattractive. If you can't break 99+ in 24, you're most likely not above a 6 in the eyes of women.
This is a totally out of touch standard. Have you actually used a dating app? I use hinge and have been on dates/slept with very attractive girls and I probably get 2-3 a day.
It's not out of touch or anything really, you're just not attractive to women. Your results are literally bang on average, it's just that you were unaware until now of the actual nature of the curve and for whatever reason assumed yourself to be at the top end. It's like when a kid who's pretty decent at math in his class of first graders gets his first taste of just how much average he is in comparison to IMO gold medalists.
You are weirdly desperate to get people to take the blackpill. Again, what experience do you have using dating apps? Because so far most of your posts read like someone who reads a lot about them, and knows a lot about them, but has never actually used one. To be clear I do pretty well on the apps and have been on plenty of dates with objectively attractive women that I met on an app. I don’t totally disagree with your thesis, but it’s way too doom and gloom considering how much low hanging fruit there is in getting good pictures and not messaging like a boring weirdo.
I find it really interesting how convinced you seem to be that you're attractive despite women literally telling you to your face through Tinder that you aren't. No, if you only get two or three likes a day on Tinder, you aren't attractive, you aren't some Casanova, and you're objectively doing quite badly in comparison to actually good profiles. Furthermore, I don't really give a damn how many dates you go on with "objectively attractive women"-- that's a more or less irrelevant metric when I'm willing to bet that nine out of every ten of those dates stopped at the first date, and probably nine out of every ten of the remainder led to precisely nothing (not to mention these objectively attractive women are probably 5s at best anyways). I have experience on dating apps, I know plenty of people who've used them, I've used them personally. I even have some data from an actual top profile to back up my point. You can go compare yours. You don't match up.
Tinder example 1
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If I'm taking this right, you think that getting swipes is more important than going on dates from the swipes? So 100 'yes hi' and nothing more is better than three dates from three 'yes hi' messages?
That seems to me to be a strange measure of success, but it does seem to fit the theory that "women don't go on dating apps to meet men, they go on dating apps to receive validation by getting swipes".
Is that what you are aiming for here? More swipes means more validation but you don't actually want to meet or date any of the people who matched?
This is a caricature of my position. Firstly-- you need to consider that most only a fraction of likes will convert into matches into dates into sex or relationships. If you want to be successful on this app, you need to rack up likes and matches and be able to filter through a large amount of women relatively quickly. This is pretty basic stuff. If you get 10 likes a week, you're probably going nowhere.
Non-sequitur.
Non-sequitur.
Also, it isn't just women saying "yes hi"-- matches will show more interest and desire if you're more attractive. The benefits don't stop at raw numbers of likes or matches.
Hinge match
You are very entertaining to interact with, but I'm afraid that the more you reply to people, the less I credit you with serious intent. You reply to everyone with the equivalent of "no, you're smelly and ugly" and that makes it hard to think you are thinking about this subject.
Women all shallow bitches care only for hot looks, yeah, heard it before.
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Well firstly I said that I primarily use hinge. How old are you? Tinder is pretty dead for Gen Z, at least in NYC. Secondly, going on dates with attractive women is literally the only success metric that matters when talking about dating apps. Whether or not there’s a second date/you get laid is almost totally determined by your game and her mood, rather than how good you looked in 6 photos. Also your example is totally irrelevant because it has no time measure, no location settings, and more importantly no info on how hot these matches are.
I'm just a bit genuinely curious on your philosophy so I'm going to ask flat out. Do you actually think that you're going to get more dates with two matches a day rather than two hundred?
I'm not trying to be rude but this just isn't true. If a girl is actually physically attracted to you it takes pretty close to no effort to get laid with her. Of course as with anything it's a matter of degree-- but saying it's all or even mostly game is just straight up wrong.
If you actually took a look you'd've seen that there were quite literally multiple time measures, so this is a bit of an odd question to ask. The rest of this seems a lot like special pleading and goalpost moving. Hinge match
No.
I don’t think it’s odd, I didn’t want to do the math and figured that since you’re providing the screenshots you could tell me more information about how long the profile was active. Instead I’ll just work it out: 1,095 days, 1,980 matches, so slightly under 2 matches a day. This is a little confusing to me because I definitely clear that, but you said I was ugly and date 5s :(
That's some rather interesting framing. If you looked at the data you'd see that there were days with as many as 350+ likes and about 100 matches. The profile was more or less inactive after a couple months, so the averages are naturally brought down by the inactivity + the fact that you naturally receive less likes and matches over time.
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You do get a pretty big exposure boost for the first 24 hours on a fresh account
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