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It doesn't really matter what you personally think of Finn or Niko's looks-- the proof's in the pudding, hundreds to thousands of women found them attractive and made the determination for us. It doubly doesn't really matter whether or not some women compliment you here and there, because if you were actually attractive, no offense intended, you would be able to just show us your profile on one of these dating apps and show us your thousands of matches. I'll make a wild guess-- you don't because you're the kind of guy who gets maybe one or two likes in a day if he's lucky, and if he's really on a roll, maybe three or four. You don't like seeing the Mariana Trench sized disparity in attractiveness between you or Finn, so instead of actually engaging you just choose to dole out some meaningless childish insults. Why? It's so nakedly displaying your own internalized envy and jealousy.
I beg your pardon? This is just unmerited aggression. I expanded just below, giving some reasons to be skeptical of your conclusion (it is inconsistent with anecdotal experience, and it is inconsistent with what I understand to be a well-replicated observation, that women care less about appearance than men), and then also speculating about some alternative explanations for the limited observation that you made. I consider this a good-faith engagement.
And your response is... to call me an ugly loser?
Looking further down the thread, this seems to be your general response to anybody who expresses skepticism of your claim, no matter how politely or well-reasoned. "You don't understand because you're an ugly beta, not a chad like the guys in this gallery."
Probably some of the other posters are correct and you're simply trolling. Well, I hope you had your fun.
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