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Not trying to beat you up with responses here, but I both:
You want to be fair to this child. I want to be fair to everyone else.
I meant that she is a child more to point out that her current way of living and incentive system is very different than from an adult's and also that she doesn't have the capacity she would have as an adult, rather than to elicit empathy. Empathy is also a good to have, but I do think that her specific problem of getting bored and seeking chaos for fun would be less likely to occur if she had a lot of responsibilities to worry about in her day to day life and also had a lot more control over her life (so if she wants something, then she can figure out how to get it for herself rather than begging the people around her, and it would probably be in a productive manner in a well-structured society). She would also have learned mechanisms to deal with things that cause her to be upset with more experience in life (even if they aren't the most healthy or ideal way). Currently, she has only learned to devolve into tantrums and escape whatever irritates her because that is what works now. I also have heard of people who didn't have empathy for others the way she doesn't have any now when they were teenagers, but went on to learn it. So even if it is unlikely, I don't think that it is impossible she would always stay this way.
I am not convinced that children with this very specific/rare combination of traits go on to be great destroyers 100% of the time. Can you link a source if you have any, or are you speaking from your own experience? Personally, I have read that most psychopaths tend to become productive members of society, and it makes sense to me why that would be. Also, I am curious what kind of behaviour you are expecting from the girl in the future. I can see her becoming a druggie in a society that allows drugs, and a thief in one that is lenient with thiefs, but in both cases I would blame the system too. Apart from that I can see her being anti-social in situations where she has nothing to gain from, but that's not considered destructive enough to murder people.
I agree that it doesn't make sense to prioritise this girl over everyone else, but I don't think that it has to be a tradeoff. Surely there are solutions between just letting the problem be, and "putting her down" that work out for everyone.
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