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Current American society has an observable antipathy towards a) older men marrying, or simply pairing with, much younger women b) older men practicing polygyny. I’ve come across the theory that this is largely due to these two practices being closely associated with Mormons, since most Americans have antipathy, or at least suspicion, towards Mormons. I find that believable, although I think a) is mostly explained by simple common female sentiment and feminist norms; and not even pro-Muslim woke sentiment can offset b), as the Muslim minority in the US is basically negligible.
So no, I don’t think such a correction is likely. Also, polygyny, where it’s practiced legally, is normally strictly regulated, as far as I can tell, and entails the husband claiming responsibility for multiple women. That’s rather unlikely to become the norm in the West.
What I do think we’ll see are the following:
A) Increasingly shrill propaganda aimed at single men, imploring them to marry single mothers
B) A growing realization among older women that normalized casual sex is detrimental to the female sexual strategy (to be clear, moral/religious considerations will play zero role in this) – consequently, we’ll see more and more middle-aged mothers specifically encouraging their daughters not to sleep around – but still, I think this’ll mostly come to nothing; in my view, femininity and the art of seduction are mostly lost and forgotten, so most Western women have no clue how to elicit long-term commitment from desirable men
C) Rising levels of mental illness among women (millions and millions of women are addicted to social media, and will lose the online attention they are accustomed to as their looks fade – this will have enormous consequences)
D) Single motherhood starting to become normalized among college-educated women
E) Even more propaganda in general along the line of “weak men are screwing up feminism”
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