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To restore fertility rates, you will have to put the genie of the sexual revolution back in the bottle, and I wonder how easy that will be? How, do you think, will you encourage men as well as women not to seek sex outside of marriage, not to seek cohabitation without marriage, not to be serial monogamists, not to put off childbearing, and when they do have children two is the maximum upper limit?
People are complaining about Roe versus Wade, and abortion has only been a 'right' for fifty years. You will be asking people whose parents and even grandparents grew up liberated by the Pill and with the idea that sex is for fun, first and foremost, and that having children is the worst thing that can possibly happen to you, hence why abortion is necessary as a human right. Trying to convince them that the ideal is "get married in your early twenties, have four children, don't sleep around before or while married" is going to be an uphill struggle that makes Sisyphus in Hades look like a pleasant little ramble.
Do you know anyone that married before 30, has 4 children and regrets the sexual promiscuity, alcohol and a 16 - 26 rakish decade? I see one in the mirror everyday.
I don't think it'd be a Sisyphean as you describe. Sadly many of the societal tools to ensure a positive outcome have been blunted. Shaming is frequently seen an sexist, misogynist, anti-alaphabet people, etc. Realistic positive portrayals of women choosing to be mothers, wives and homemakers and family life are rare in popular culture.
Young men are in similar difficulty as evidenced by the popularity of 'Clean up your own room' and perceived lack of respect afforded to those choosing trades or technical training. The many that find themselves in online echo chambers and feedback loops is also unhelpful.
That current year, sexual liberation, leaning-in and girl bossing does not seem to make women very happy is evident in the volume of psychotropic medications consumed by this cohort. That they commiserate in their unhappiness is evident in the literature and media they frequently consume.
Get woke, go broke suggests to me the perception of a deep cultural shift may be unwarranted.
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