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I'm interested in pushing the boundaries of what I can do in order to give my kid(s) a leg up in the future that may not be typical, strictly legal, or within the overton window of parenting.
The typical parenting strategies I already "get" and have plans for. Read early, go beyond school, foster the development of valuable hobbies and life skills, blah blah blah. My parents did a pretty good job IMO so I'm just really taking their formula and tweaking it.
I'm looking to optimize intelligence, SMV, athletic ability, and independence. Examples of things I'm considering but haven't done much research or fact-finding on:
Providing HGH at the optimal times to support height and muscle development.
Figuring out ways to accumulate wealth they can eventually access and avoid taxes.
Ways to give them maximum freedom of movement/flexible citizenship.
Ensuring they're guided away from porn/blue-pill sexuality guidance and (ideally) start off with more information on TECHNIQUE than I did. I think they'll figure this out themselves but I'm struggling to figure out how to do it without a profoundly weird conversation.
Put another way, I'm willing to take on risk to maximize long-term benefit for them, at what I think is a higher rate than the baseline parent. Off-the-wall thoughts and criticisms appreciated.
My criticism is that your post reads like your ultimate priority is ensuring your kids can accumulate as much status as humanly possible. There are aspects of this that are reasonable to care about, as a parent: keeping them out of poverty, crime, or damaging social dysfunction. But what's the point of maximizing returns beyond that? You say you've gone through the usual parenting strategies, which presumably takes care of the essentials -- why is ensuring your kids develop good character not the natural priority then?
To be frank, the reason I skipped over a lot of non-status elements is because I really feel like I have those covered.
I'm not a piece of shit, my wife definitely isn't, and almost nobody in our extended family is either. From a moral/good character perspective I just feel like we have that on lock and would have to fuck up royally to have things go any differently.
Even with these status maximization techniques there's going to have to be lessons with them. As an example, I've always been very good with women, but that's worthless if you're destructive to the people you're fucking/having relationships with. The bar should be that everyone views you as a net positive in their life, even if there's a little pain or wistfulness when things don't work out.
You can be an amazing athlete at school or what have you, but you'll 100% regret treating anyone in your peer group badly or being a bully. There's no reason for it.
I could go on but basically I think it's sort of boring table-stakes that should be expected out of a functional parent.
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