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Yes, he gets divorced.
Spousal support is rare but not non-existent (my father paid it, and he was divorced far later than the 1960s), but child support is very high and doesn't have to be spent on the children. If his income goes up he has to pay more; if it goes down he still has to pay the same.
Which is irrelevant, as they were still demanded to have been paying it. And if they get caught, they have their wages garnished down to subsistence or less, they lose their driver's licenses, professional licenses, go to jail for contempt for indefinite periods, etc.
This is not what actually happens to any man (or the vast majority of men- I question whether it's even a statistically significant number of men) who get divorced.
You mean "pretty rare"? I.e., exactly what I said in the post you are replying to but framing it as a rebuttal?
"Pretty high" is subjective and depends entirely on how much obligation you think a parent has to provide for their offspring. No, there isn't an itemized accounting for every dollar of child support because household expenses are too fungible, but child support is calculated based on the expected expenses of a child and the income of the parents.
Unsurprisingly, the non custodial parent often thinks any amount is too high. Child support can be adjusted up or down. A judge has to approve increasing it, it doesn't happen automatically if income goes up. And it can be decreased too based on life circumstances , though judges tend to take a dim view of the tactic of taking a lower paying job to decrease child support.
It's relevant when you are claiming child support as an injustice, which it is not. In any case, even the most onerous child support does not reach the level of "taking most of his assets and future earnings."
It used to be that the child would go to the parent who can afford him, and the deadbeats of either sex would just not get guardianship. If you can’t manage to take care of yourself, you shouldn’t take care of children. Makes sense to me.
Then the justice system was bent precisely so that the economically useless parent, usually the woman, could extract resources from the productive one.
And now the conversation goes : “But I don’t want to get exploited by a deadbeat!” “Wow you’re such a deadbeat.”
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