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This sort of undermines the rest.
You won't believe he shocking things men expect from women as a result of porn!
When late GenX was coming of age, those last two were not only part of a major motion picture, they were in the trailer.
The point is "exaggerated porn noises" during sex, even if the girl isn't enjoying herself. And choking certainly wasn't mainstream, but it's seeping out just like heterosexual anal sex, and that comes from porn. Kids are watching porn and picking up lessons from it about "this is what sex is supposed to be like", which is why we're trying to hold back the tide on minors accessing porn. Age-verification laws like the one in Texas may be futile, but the alternative surely shouldn't be "they've got Internet access since the age of six, they're gonna find porn anyway, let thirteen year olds watch hardcore BDSM, you can't stop them".
Yes, that was in said major motion picture trailer.
When (generic) you tell me "porn is making kids think choking during sex is normal", I'm inclined to consider it. When you say "Porn is making kids think choking, pleasurable noises, and women having (or faking) orgasms during sex is normal" I'm inclined to think you just have something against porn that might be unrelated.
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