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It has everything to do with your post; it is a counterthesis to the quoted question.
You're basically complaining that there isn't a reasonable 'win condition' against the scolds scolding him, and I am extrapolating on that.
An old fat lady, may have been relatively better percieved, because it could have engendered some 'love is love' sentimentatily.
But mostly, the idea of a rich guy disrupting marriages with children and taking other people's women (whether that's literally another man's wife, or a more figurative, crowding the market of young hot chicks for single guys) ends up producing an aversion response in a large fraction of people.
But modernity can't out and say that, so the complaints about Bezos's are being laundered through secondary issues.
Does that clear up the response, or were you just itching to sneer at a percieved suggestion that adultery is bad and couldn't be bothered to post it anywhere relevant?
I just got around to bothering to read this post 17 days later.
I lightheartedly complained that there wasn't a way to avoid people bitching about what a rich guy's woman looks like. You just sound like some sack of shit whose wife left him, barging in all serious to tell us how actually it's because adultery is bad, like nobody else knows the context around this or why anyone might be mad at Jeff Bezos.
Fuck off, retard.
You've accumulated four warnings in a couple of months for obnoxious raspberries that add nothing to the conversation. And you decide you need to come back to a 17-day-old comment to say "Fuck off, retard"?
I'm going straight to a two-week ban this time, and will be in favor of escalating to a permaban next time, because you seem to be one of those people who's just here to shit on threads.
ETA: Escalated to permaban for ban evasion
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Can't we assume that if he divorced her then perhaps she was a bad wife and a mother who deserved even less than she got
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