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This is horrible. Putting any child younger than 3 years into such a facility is equivalent to putting them part-time into orphanage. Infants and toddlers do not have emotional regulation to handle that and they need regular skin-to-skin contact with mothers and to lesser degree with fathers. Otherwise they can develop similar symptoms to those of institutionalized children with all the baggage - learned helplessness, closing into their internal world as they know outside help is not coming even after hours of crying etc.
Is there any solid evidence of this psychological damage? A lot of parents, starting from month 6, try to ignore their kids crying, so that they cry less and become less of a burden (they are far more coddled now than they used to be). And from adoption studies we know that parenting does not matter much.
Prima facie, this sounds absurd. Does not matter much for what?
Raising a good, happy, productive human. People have been looking for this magical parenting style that explains why Joe is good and Jack Y is bad for centuries, and they haven't found it. It's genetics or it's random.
Sure, my statement is implicitly limited to the context of the modern western parenting debate.
I don't think budget daycare is serious abuse, though. That is within that western context where my statement holds and parenting does not matter.
I think this depends on age. I am open to the idea that putting a one-year-old in daycare for 40+ hours a week is, in fact, serious abuse. This long substack post is a good meta-analysis. I am aware of the author's identity and can confirm that you are not reading axe-grinding or filtered evidence like you would in most peer-reviewed social science journals.
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