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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 14, 2025

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Possible. But obesity would have to be her only disqualifying factor.

Oh, did you know there's research showing that obese women aren't willing to date obese men? Even though most obese men would settle for an obese women?

Women are the ones judging obesity (in others) harshly.

Again, why is the onus on the men to settle, here? That's not the source of the asymmetry.

Again, why is the onus on the men to settle, here?

Because female bodies have value, and male bodies do not. You belong to the less valuable half of the human species. We just had a whole ass thread on this.

Although it should be pointed out, said thread also included a post from a woman who said that she felt like she's the one who has to settle, so, maybe the grass on the other side isn't as green as you think it is.

Because female bodies have value, and male bodies do not. [Men] belong to the less valuable half of the human species.

I get the underlying sentiment, but this is such an overextension of the concept that it's almost backwards. Yes, a woman can be literally brain dead and still fulfill her biological function, but in all areas except reproduction and survival in starvation-times, a male body is more useful than a female body—the value of literally doubled upper body strength and 1.5x greater lower body strength at base cannot be ignored. Add on top the other advantages of the male form (generally better grasp of logos, less susceptible to pathological emotionality, peeing your name in the snow), and it's apparent why men are universally considered the default sex.

Men are the ones writing long screeds on the internet about how they can’t get laid. Women aren’t. (Or when they do, it’s because none of the available options are quite good enough.)

This is not a random coincidence. It’s rooted in a biological asymmetry.

That’s all it means.

The women are videotaping themselves ranting on TikTok about how they can't get out of "situationships" and into decent relationships.

Because female bodies have value, and male bodies do not

Yeah. But as the TFR rates are showing, women largely aren't doing the thing that actually makes their bodies valuable.

Whilst men are still using their bodies to do all the work that actually lets us maintain some level of civilization.

Yet another asymmetry. And not due to men's failings.

who said that she felt like she's the one who has to settle, so, maybe the grass on the other side isn't as green as you think it is.

I think that you're kind of proving the point, because a woman has to settle for grass that's less green than she'd like.

A guy has to settle for, metaphorically, starving to death.

The alternative to getting their ideal partner for women is getting a guy they find unattractive.

The alternative for guys is... nothing.

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