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That list is basically for dating middle class girls off the apps. Become a line cook and you'll see plenty of the bottom 50% get laid and have the chance to date working class girls yourself lol. Marriage hasn't collapsed for the bottom 50% because they can't get laid but because they don't participate in any social institution these days. Ala the Fishtown of Bowling Alone. I feel like this whole world is invisible to the programmers and engineers on the Motte chasing girlbosses on the apps.
It's not a problem that can be fixed with self improvement. But it's a pretty easy problem to solve, for any non-obese, non-insane, white guy 45 and under, just outsource. Open FilipinaCupid.com or go study some bullshit continuing education course in Manila and you'll have dozens of eligible pretty slim women falling over you. Yes there will be pure gold diggers and green card hunters but also don't discount the natural attraction being wealthy and high status induces is women.
Don't even have to go to a specific site for it.
I have an OKCupid account that I haven't really touched in over a year, and whenever I log in I'll have a handful of likes from Filipina ladies.
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