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Wellness Wednesday for December 28, 2022

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Noting that we're all almost by definition addicts on here.

Ask yourself what you want to achieve. I've been trying to reduce my shit-tier reply-guy-ing, even on here, and what I've realized is that if I think about it, the utility of arguing with say, a modern degenerate Nazi/Tankie/Pedo-Fascist is something like making sure the argument doesn't go unaddressed and people don't feel like the forum as a whole is endorsing it. He can get the last word, or ten words, or thousand words, no one is going to read that far anyway, what's important to me is that it doesn't go unanswered at the top level. This is probably pointless too, but it addresses my aesthetic desire to not let it go.

So for example, if somebody on an NFL forum defends Deshaun Watson, I want to speak up to say no he's a piece of shit, but I don't think I'm going convince the piece of shit defending him, I'm going to make clear to others on the forum that this kind of thing won't go unaddressed. That only requires saying it once, not getting into a game of replies.