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I think it depends a lot both on the person (how active is their sweat glands, what bacteria they host, etc. - this is all very individual) and on the lifestyle they lead. If I work out, I always take a shower after, because otherwise I stink. If I am practicing martial arts (read: close bodily contact with other people), it's a shower before and after, first because you don't want to be that guy, and second the same reason as the workout. Otherwise, I usually shower before going to sleep, but if I am super tired I could skip it once in a while. If I wake up especially sweaty or tired, I may take shower in the morning but often I don't. Overall, it could be anytime from once per 2-3 days (if I am doing something particularly mentally exhausting but not requiring me any physical effort, and for some reason I do not work out all that time), to 2-3 times a day. If I go for a couple of days without and don't do much physical effort, I don't smell any particularly bad (I asked) but unless there are very unusual circumstances (like extended camping) I prefer to not take too long breaks. That said, in my student days, where I lived in the same quarters with other people, I knew people that could go much longer and didn't see any effects that offended my sense of smell (of course, I didn't have close bodily contact with them so who knows).
One thing that is weird for me is "had sex" >> "showered". I can't remember or imagine a case where I had sex and didn't take a shower/bath soon after. I'd feel very bad. But I guess it's individual too.
Yeah. I'm similar. I'm very physically active which tends to just regulate my showering tempo according to the 'got immensely sweaty, shower' principle which generally works. But I tend to see showering more as a reactive activity to dirtiness as opposed to a 'must be done at X interval else unclean automatically'
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