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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 2, 2023

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Conservatives aren't eager to spend a lot of political capital helping out men who made the mistake of, as the saying goes, "sticking their dick in crazy".

Women tend to care more about family courts. It’s easy to get them riled up with stories of suffering children. Many aren’t sympathetic to men who get a raw deal there.

Plus, there’s a bit of schadenfreude involved. Liberal men often buy into the extremely pro-women talk in their circles. They are usually the ones who end up marrying the BPD / NPD / Cluster-B women who work the courts against them.

I'm not sure this is true. As far as anyone can tell, poor secular people(who might be more socially liberal than conservatives or republicans but are much more socially conservative than liberals or democrats) bear the brunt of marrying women with actual mental illnesses. I'm sure that the women who marry liberal men are more likely to have been diagnosed with mental illnesses, but that's confounded all to heck. It is likely slightly better to be a white wealthy religious conservative than a white wealthy religious liberal, from this perspective, but I doubt there's a massive difference.

From what I can tell, the men who end up with crazies tend to be mostly the poor and uneducated. Coastal, upper middle class, professional men tend to end up with a woman similarly socially situated; you might say those partners have their own psychological issues, but they're not the ones who pull knives on you, issue false accusations, burn your stuff in the yard, make dramatic "attempts" at killing themselves, or have three secret baby daddies.

I’m more talking the far left aspiring creative types. Look at this list of Zoe Quinn’s exes. Or Dave Foley and Tabatha Southey.

The more upper class have the social structures to defend themselves.

The lower class lefties take cultural cues to reject traditional expectations of women but don’t have anything to replace them with.

They are usually the ones who end up marrying the BPD / NPD / Cluster-B women who work the courts against them.

Any stats on this?